Colton Underwood Gets Tough Love on ‘Coming Out Colton’ as He’s Held Accountable to ‘Face Up’ to What He’s Done

Colton Underwood is a household name for mega fans of The Bachelor and The Bachelorette franchise. Many love him and many love to hate him. He first appeared on The Bachelorette in 2018 and then went on to star in Bachelor in Paradise and then the 23rd season of The Bachelor. The show focused on his football career and his desire to remain a virgin until he found the right person.

He dated and eliminated many girls until he settled on Cassie Randolph. They didn’t get engaged at the final rose ceremony. But they did continue to date. Then things got more intense. Underwood had a secret that led him to make some poor choices. His Netflix show, Coming Out Colton, holds him accountable and lets him share his side of the story.

Colton Underwood says goodbye to Cassie Randolph and shares a secret

Underwood and Randolph dated from November 2018 until May 2020. Us Magazine reports that the couple’s relationship was tumultuous, to say the least — a constant up and down. It all climaxed when Cassie had to file a temporary restraining order against Underwood for alleged stalking and harassment. The two were able to settle the matter out of court in November 2020.

In April 2021, Underwood dropped a major truth bomb on his fans when he came out as gay. As is the case for many people, Underwood was forced to really look at himself honestly while living through the coronavirus pandemic and quarantine. He realized he’d been running from his true self for a long time. He publicly came out on the April 14 episode of Good Morning America while speaking with journalist Robin Roberts. 

While Underwood is glad he officially came out, he is not happy with the circumstances of how it happened. He claims he was blackmailed by an email he received threatening to release compromising photos of him at a massage parlor. Underwood’s reaction was to come out on his own terms before anything else happened. Now, a Netflix series tells the story of his new, more honest life.

Underwood has to listen to some harsh words 

Colton Underwood receives advice from a pastor during 'Coming Out Colton'
Colton Underwood receives advice from a pastor during ‘Coming Out Colton’ | Netflix via Youtube

As Underwood was in the process of coming out as gay, he had to answer some hard questions. MSN reports that the 29-year-old had to face the reality of what he did to his ex-girlfriend. A mutual friend of his and Randolph’s as well as a pastor offered the tough love.

The mutual friend, Joseph Michael, said to Underwood, “I’m going to tell you straight up, what you f–king put her through was bulls–t. You f–ked up and there was no excuse whatsoever for anything you did. You scared her and put her in a situation where it wasn’t comfortable for her.” 

Later in Coming Out Colton, pastor Nicole Garcia tells Underwood, “You want to sit down and apologize to make yourself feel better. That’s not the way to approach it.” She encourages him to make a change by “looking in the mirror and saying, ‘I was a piece of s–t. I wanted things my way so bad I was willing to do anything to make it happen.'”

When it comes to the future and how Underwood can move forward, the pastor said, “The best thing you can do is work on you and face up to what you’ve done before you get into your next relationship, before you go in and f–k up somebody else’s life. Take responsibility for what you’ve done, and then work on not doing it again.” 

Underwood doesn’t say much about Randolph in ‘Coming Out Colton’ 

Due to legal restrictions, there wasn’t much Underwood could say about Randolph and how things ended between them. He would have married her, though, if she had agreed. He greatly regrets how he acted and how everything ended. 

About starting a relationship with Randolph, Underwood said during the first episode of The Bachelor, “Everyone saw the first rose ceremony as just another rose ceremony. For me, it was so much more than that. I felt myself becoming more of a straight man.” He felt Randolph could “change” him. 

Once Underwood and Randolph broke up, it was a downward spiral for Underwood. It was in his desire to cover up the truth, of him being gay, that he made one bad choice after another.  He said, “I was so attached to a traditional life and my straight relationship that I knew that she was my last straight relationship and I didn’t want to let that go because I don’t want to have to deal with this.”

In the finale of Coming Out Colton, Underwood said, “There’s only so much that I can do in regard to the Cassie of it all. Legally, I can’t talk about it and the only person that I have to blame is myself.”

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