Demi Lovato Calls Engagement to Max Ehrich a ‘False Sense of Security’

Months after calling off her engagement to ex-fiancé Max Ehrich, Demi Lovato is opening up about their whirlwind relationship like never before.

Not only does she explore their short-lived romance in her brand new YouTube docuseries, Dancing with the Devil, but the singer recently opened up her engagement to Ehrich in an interview with Entertainment Weekly, sharing why she felt it gave her a “false sense of security.”

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Demi Lovato performing at the OBB Premiere Event for YouTube Originals Docuseries Demi Lovato: Dancing With The Devil | Rich Fury/Getty Images for OBB Media

Demi Lovato was briefly engaged to Max Ehrich in 2020

If you’ve been keeping up with Lovato’s love life, then you know all about her whirlwind engagement to Ehrich.

The two started dating in early 2020 at the onset of the coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic. In July, the pair became engaged, but their love story ended two months later.

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Max Ehrich posing at the Vision 2020 BALL By The Rescue Project / Haven Hands Inc.| Jared Siskin/Patrick McMullan via Getty Images

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Though Lovato initially kept a tight lip on her breakup from The Young and the Restless actor, she addressed their short-lived engagement while hosting the 2020 People’s Choice Awards in November.

 “I did what everyone else did — I went into lockdown mode and got engaged,” she joked.

Now, Lovato is opening up even more about her brief engagement, sharing in a new interview how much she’s grown since ending things with Ehrich.

Getting engaged was more about looking for a sense of stability for Demi Lovato

In a recent interview with Entertainment Weekly, the “Sorry Not Sorry” hitmaker got candid her short-lived engagement. Looking back, Lovato thinks that her choice to get engaged was more about proving to the world that she’d found stability in her life than anything else. 

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“I really had myself fooled, because it was the safe and expected thing,” she told the publication. “Obviously I cared deeply about the person, but there was something inside of me that was like, ‘I have to prove to the world that I’m OK.’ Now that I’m not engaged or married and I’m OK, I’m like, ‘Wow. Isn’t that so much more empowering?’ It’s not this false sense of security.”

Lovato went on to admit that the size of her engagement ring made everything “really real.” But after taking the diamond off, she realized it wasn’t something she needed in her life.

“I just don’t need an object on my finger to make me feel like I’ve got my sh*t together. It looks like stability, but it doesn’t mean that it is,” the singer continued. “And I don’t actually grow through stability. I find that I like living not in chaos or crisis, but in fluidity. It’s not [being] stuck and stagnant in an ideal or a tradition that was placed upon us by the patriarchy.”

Demi Lovato realized she was ‘just too queer’ to settle down with a man

In the wake of her split from Ehrich, Lovato realized that she is much more comfortable being on her own, at least at this point in her life.

She’s also embraced her “really, really queer” side as she’s found herself leaning more into her sexuality lately.

“Regardless if drama is happening or not, I am too gay to marry a man right now,” she shared. “I don’t know if that will change in 10 years and I don’t know if that’ll never change, but I love accepting myself.”

She added, “I’ve always known I was hella queer, but I have fully embraced it.”