Demi Lovato Defines Her Sexuality with 1 Ad-Lib on an ‘Extremely Important’ Song

Singer Demi Lovato’s dating life has been a topic of fan interest and media speculation since she was a teenager. Over the past few years, she’s “come out” but hasn’t always used the same words when speaking about her sexuality. Now, she’s found a way to define it in her own terms — with her music.

Demi Lovato opened up about sexuality in recent years

Demi Lovato performs at the LA PRIDE 2014 Parade on June 8, 2014, in West Hollywood, California.
Demi Lovato performs at the LA PRIDE 2014 Parade on June 8, 2014, in West Hollywood, California. | Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic

Lovato’s dated several notable men throughout her career, from her Disney Channel beau Joe Jonas to her long-time partner Wilmer Valderrama. Following her breakup with the latter, the artist called herself “very fluid,” telling InStyle in 2018, “I think love is love. You can find it in any gender.”

The singer repeated the sentiment over the next couple of years. But after breaking off her engagement with actor Max Ehrich in 2020, Lovato began to define her identity. “When I started getting older, I started realizing how queer I really am,” she told Glamour in a 2021 cover story.

1 ‘DWTDTAOSO’ track defines her sexuality

Though she’s used the word “queer” in the past, Lovato came out as pansexual during a promotional tour ahead of the release of her album Dancing with the Devil… the Art of Starting Over. And there’s even a song off the album that she says sums things up perfectly.

“I think the best way to describe my sexuality is in my song ‘The Kind of Love I Am.’ That song to me fully encompasses exactly what the title says,” she said on The Zach Sang Show. “If anyone ever has questions regarding my sexuality, I’m literally just going to point them to that song.”

‘The Kind of Lover I Am’ lyric Lovato loves

In addition to the title itself, a lyric from “The Kind of Lover I Am” rings true for Lovato. “There’s an ad-lib in the song that says, ‘Or you could be anything in between.’ It was so important for me to ad-lib that lyric because even though it’s not repeated throughout the entire song, it’s cool,” she told Sang.

Lovato continued. “I’ve never had a lyric that fully encompasses my sexuality like that. The closest I ever came was [her hit Confident single] ‘Cool for the Summer.’ And in that, I was still closeted and not out yet. For me to really own my sexuality, it’s just the beginning of a much more free and happy life.”

How she feels about her evolving sexuality

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Though Lovato is secure in how she feels now, she believes things could change when it comes to her sexuality over time. “There’s a difference between accepting and knowing,” she told Sang. “I don’t know what my sexuality is going to be 10 years from now. I know what it is today, and I can say I accept what it is today, right?”

But just as she’s evolved to be where she is today, Lovato knows she’ll be OK if things change in the future. “As long as you set out to always be able to accept yourself for who you are, it doesn’t matter what sexuality you’ll identify with 10 years or 10 days from now,” she finished.