Demi Lovato on Dating, Her ‘Type,’ and If She Wants to Have Kids: ‘I’m Open to Anything’

Demi Lovato opened up about her new music and relationships, past and present, in an interview with Harper’s Bazaar. Her thoughts on dating and settling down show that these things may be on her radar, but she doesn’t feel any pressure to define things. Lovato also shared her “type” — or lack thereof.

Demi Lovato performs at the 62nd Annual GRAMMY Awards
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Lovato has moved on from a long-term relationship

Lovato dated actor Wilmer Valderrama for a number of years, but they finally called it quits after six years of their on and off relationship. Valderrama went on to get engaged to model Amanda Pacheco in January 2020.

The singer has moved on completely from that chapter of her life and wishes her ex well. “I’m really happy for him and I wish him nothing but the best, but we’re not in each other’s lives, haven’t spoken in a long time,” Lovato told Harper’s Bazaar in their May 2020 issue.

She continued, “But I think I needed that because I needed to learn to be okay on my own. When you get into a relationship with somebody at that young of an age and then you spend six years with somebody, you don’t really get to learn about yourself.”

Lovato gave a dating update

Lovato is currently single, though she did give the dating app for celebrities, Raya, a try — only to be rejected by the service after she had deleted her account and tried to get back on it again. She took that as a sign.

“I just deleted it out of respect to the person I was with, then we broke up and I went to get back on,” she explained. “And I was like, ‘You know what? It’s fine. I don’t need to be on this because I think I’m supposed to be alone right now.’”

With an outpouring of support from fans and friends, Lovato said, “I’ve never felt more loved,” adding, “Which is really cool because I’m single as all hell right now.”

Will she settle down?

When asked whether she thinks she’ll settle down with someone, Lovato didn’t count it out, but seemed content to let things play out without pressure.

“When I imagine my life in the future, I don’t say, ‘I’m looking for a man who I want to have two or three kids with.’ I think it could be so much fun to share children with a woman…,” she explained. “So I don’t know what my future will look like, and I’m open to anything.”

She continued, “People always ask me, ‘What’s your type?’ And I’m like, ‘Have you seen my history?’ There is no type. It is solely off connection. I wish I could say, ‘I only date attractive people.’ But I don’t.”

Lovato also touched on a shift in her mindset that she’s found freeing. “My life motto was ‘powering through it,’” she explained. “But when you power through your life all day, every day for 10 years, you’re ignoring all that pain or you’re just trying not to self-destruct… It’s not really living.”

“I’m feeling it out as things go,” she added. “But I finally feel free.”