Elon Musk’s First Wife Paints a Picture of a Distant and Controlling Husband

Elon Musk and Grimes just welcomed their newborn child into the world. The baby, who Grimes and Musk seem to have named X Æ A-12 Musk, is Grimes’ first. However, Musk has had several children already — six sons, one of whom passed away as a result of SIDS. All six were children he had with Justine Wilson, his first wife. Wilson, who penned a tell-all for Marie Claire, revealed that the Elon Musk we know is not the person she was married to. The man she describes is controlling and emotionally distant. 

Elon Musk and Grimes welcome X Æ A-12 Musk

Grime and Elon Musk welcomed their first child together on Tuesday, May 5. Grimes chronicled her experiences with pregnancy on her Instagram, where she discussed what it’s like working while pregnant and the lack of information she felt she had going into the situation.

Grimes wrote on Instagram, “Fake or real? Haha. Wow I’m starting to feel bad haha… how do y’all cope with working and having a baby?? I’m sorry I haven’t been promoting my album properly or on social media more. This whole thing has been a bit of an ordeal. Had some complications early on, a decent second trimester but starting to hurt everywhere at 25 wksz [sic].”

Grimes went on to add, “What were yall’s experience w this stuff like? I feel like I was woefully ill prepared cuz I dunno if pregnancy is as visible or discussed as it should be. I just didn’t rly understand what I was getting into. It’s been good too, but it makes working a lot harder. Good at writing and having lots of wild ideas tho, but anything physical is hard. Im also way more emo and less capable of bravery in the face of haters online and stuff haha. But my albums out in a sec so I prob need to get back on here. Don’t mind my emo energy, but curious what other ppls experience was like. I didn’t even google it, I was just like sure y not hahaha smh [sic].”

To the confusion of netizens and fans around the world, the seem to have settled on X Æ A-12 Musk for their child’s name. It remains unclear what the meaning behind the name might be. 

Elon Musk has five other children

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While X Æ A-12 Musk is Elon Musk and Grimes’ first child together, the Tesla founder has had six other children in the past with his first wife, Justine Wilson. 

Musk and Wilson currently have five surviving sons together. These are twins Griffin and Xavier, as well as triplets Saxon, Kai, and Damian. The twins were born in 2004, and the triplets in 2006.

Sadly, Musk and Wilson’s first son together, Nevada Musk, died as a result of SIDS. Wilson explained to Marie Claire, “The same week, Nevada went down for a nap, placed on his back as always, and stopped breathing. He was 10 weeks old, the age when male infants are most susceptible to SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome).”

Justine Wilson describes her relationship with Musk

Elon Musk and Grimes welcomed X Æ A-12 Musk into the world
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Unfortunately, Justine Wilson discovered that she and Elon Musk don’t exactly grieve in the same way, among other things about Musk. 

On losing Nevada Musk and her grief process, Wilson wrote, “Elon made it clear that he did not want to talk about Nevada’s death. I didn’t understand this, just as he didn’t understand why I grieved openly, which he regarded as ‘emotionally manipulative.’”

Musk’s first wife suggests that Musk felt the need to always be in charge. “Still, there were warning signs. As we danced at our wedding reception, Elon told me, ‘I am the alpha in this relationship.’ I shrugged it off, just as I would later shrug off signing the postnuptial agreement, but as time went on, I learned that he was serious. He had grown up in the male-dominated culture of South Africa, and the will to compete and dominate that made him so successful in business did not magically shut off when he came home,” she wrote.

Wilson also claimed that Musk was a controlling and emotionally distant husband. She said that Musk viewed her as an underperforming employee. “This, and the vast economic imbalance between us, meant that in the months following our wedding, a certain dynamic began to take hold. Elon’s judgment overruled mine, and he was constantly remarking on the ways he found me lacking. ‘I am your wife,’ I told him repeatedly, ‘not your employee,’” explained Wilson.

Wilson added, “‘If you were my employee,’ he said just as often, ‘I would fire you.’”

As for emotional intimacy, Wilson said, “It was a dream lifestyle, privileged and surreal. But the whirlwind of glitter couldn’t disguise a growing void at the core. Elon was obsessed with his work: When he was home, his mind was elsewhere. I longed for deep and heartfelt conversations, for intimacy and empathy.”