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‘Gilmore Girls’: 3 Incredibly Unpopular Opinions

'Gilmore Girls' and its revival 'Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life' remain fan favorites. While most fans agree that Luke and Lorelai belonged together, that Jess and Rory were well-suited and that Emily Gilmore was the real villain in the Gilmore family, I'm afraid I have to disagree.

Gilmore Girls is one of the shows you can pop on at any time of the year, but fall seems like the perfect time to reconnect with everyone in Stars Hollow. Some fans insist Gilmore Girls remains their favorite show because it brings them comfort. For me, each new rewatch reshapes my opinions about the series and the characters in it. Not all those opinions are popular ones, though. Some of those opinions are downright controversial.

Jess Mariano was a bad partner, and he and Rory had absolutely nothing in common

Jess Mariano showed up in Stars Hollow and wrought havoc on the lives of its inhabitants. He was surly, difficult, and a petty thief. What Rory Gilmore ever saw in him remains a mystery to me, and he didn’t get any better when he finally won her heart. In fact, he got worse. Unlike Rory’s first boyfriend, Dean Forrester, and college beau, Logan Huntzberger, Jess often left Rory hanging and didn’t seem all that interested in her once he had her. Maybe he was a thrill of the chase kind of guy.

Jess Mariano and Luke Danes sit in the window of Luke's Diner in 'Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life' Jess Mariano and Luke Danes in 'Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life'
Jess Mariano and Luke Danes in ‘Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life’ | Netflix

Either way, fans on team Jess claim he and Rory had a lot in common. That’s not true. Sure, they both liked to read and were each raised by single parents, but the similarities pretty much stop there. Jess didn’t understand Rory’s world, like Logan. He wasn’t a responsible guy like Dean. He wasn’t even overly invested, like the oft-forgotten Paul. Jess and Rory never belonged together, period, and he was a trash partner to Rory while they were together. 

Luke Danes and Lorelai Gilmore getting back together in ‘Gilmore Girls’ was completely unrealistic

Most Gilmore Girls fans agree that Luke Danes and Lorelai Gilmore were the perfect couple. They ‘shipped the duo from season 1 of the series and were thrilled when they finally got together. In Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life, Lorelai and Luke finally tie the knot and appear to be happily in love when the four-part special wrapped up.

Lauren Graham as Lorelai Gilmore and Scott Patterson as Luke Danes in 'Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life'
Lauren Graham as Lorelai Gilmore and Scott Patterson as Luke Danes in ‘Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life’ | Saeed Adyani/Netflix

While I’m a sucker for a good love story, just like a lot of other people, Luke and Lorelai’s relationship wasn’t a realistic one. The pair made good friends and even better adversaries. Still, their relationship doesn’t seem like one that would have lasted in the real world, especially after everything that happened between them. Lorelai calling off the wedding, sleeping with Christopher Hayden the same night, and marrying him seems like an awful lot of baggage to work through. For two terrible communicators, it would have been impossible. I liked Luke and Lorelai together and was happy to see them get married. Their relationship just wasn’t realistic, though. 

Richard Gilmore was worse to Lorelai than Emily Gilmore was

Richard Gilmore gets a huge pass from a lot of fans, while his wife, Emily Gilmore, receives the brunt of the hate for being downright awful to Lorelai a lot of the time. It’s true, Emily and Lorelai’s relationship was incredibly tumultuous, but she wasn’t all bad. Sure, many of her behaviors were problematic, but more often than not, she meant well. Simply put, Emily was a control freak who tried to control someone with an independent spirit.

Kelly Bishop as Emily Gilmore in Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life
Kelly Bishop as Emily Gilmore in ‘Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life’ | Saeed Adyani/Netflix

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Technically, though, Richard was the worse parent. Hear me out. When Lorelai disappointed him, he wrote her off. Instead of being overbearing, like his wife, he was completely dismissive. While Emily pushed to be actively involved in her daughter and granddaughters’ life, Richard seemed completely OK with the notion of writing Lorelai off completely. Sure, the teen pregnancy wasn’t what they wanted, but it also didn’t need to be treated like all of Lorelai’s potential vanished with the positive pregnancy test. Emily might have been difficult, but she still cared. Richard was coldblooded.