How Has Andy Cohen’s Outlook on Having a Relationship Changed Since Becoming a Father?

Bravo producer Andy Cohen shared how his outlook on having a relationship has changed now that he’s a father. Cohen spent New Year’s Eve co-hosting CNN’s live feed with close friend Anderson Cooper and the two “pre-partied” with Cohen’s son Benjamin.

Anderson Cooper and Andy Cohen
Anderson Cooper and Andy Cohen |Michael Stewart/WireImage

Rather than hitting the bar or club scene Cohen and Cooper instead shared quiet time with Benjamin, joking about how the infant enjoyed playing with their press credentials. Cohen remarked about how Cooper managed to get a “hot” picture on his pass and added how his photo was “terrible.”

Cohen generously continued to share the banter and a good amount of his evening hosting the New Year’s Eve gig on Instagram. Although he spent the evening with one of his closest friends, he hasn’t quite found that special someone. Cohen shared with People about how becoming a dad has changed who he’d consider dating.

He doesn’t mind being a single dad (but would rather not)

Cohen has a wide network of friends and family to help him raise Ben. But he revealed he’d still love to find the right partner. “It’s not something in your mind — ‘Oh, I want to do this alone.’ But I like being alone,” he told People last February, Bravo’s The Daily Dish reports.

“I didn’t want to wait,” Cohen continued. “To me, it would have to be a very special person to say, ‘Let’s do this together.’ And I would love that, and that person could be having coffee down the street at this moment and I’ll meet him soon.”

He added that he is now looking for someone who is Benjamin approved. “I think that I will probably be looking for different types of guys,” he said. “I’ll be looking for guys you want to bring home to Mom or bring home to your son.”

Turning 50 was important

Turning 50 was the turning point behind Cohen’s decision to go forward with fatherhood. He spent about a year working on becoming a father as Benjamin was conceived via surrogate. On February 4, 2019, Benjamin was born.

 “I just realized that now was the time. From the time I decided, ‘Okay, I’m doing this,’ which was December 2017, for the entire year of 2018 I lived my life as though it was my last year on the planet,” Cohen told People. “I knew that I was turning a page on that chapter in my life. It’s not to say that I can’t go to a party anymore, but things are changing.”

Becoming a father was a dream not only for Cohen, but his family too. “When I came out to my parents in 1988, my mom said she had to mourn the life that I wasn’t going to be able to have. And that life meant getting married and having kids,” he recalled. “[At that time] people were dying of AIDS; [that’s] what was happening in the gay community. So all these years later, gay men are raising families and getting married. There were points where I thought that it was too late for me or that I was really focused on my career, and I was having too much fun to think about it. It was still there nagging at me in the back of my head.”