Kate Middleton’s Meghan Markle Warning to Prince Harry Was More Thoughtful Than William’s

After Prince Harry and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex left the royal family in an unprecedented move that would be called ‘Megxit’ by the British press, everyone had one question. What happened? What could possibly make a royal prince give up his title, family, and the only life he’s ever known?

A new book claims to have the answers. Royal at War came out just a few short weeks ago, but its explosive allegations have already caught the attention of royal watchers everywhere. The book claims that Prince Harry‘s problems with his family, his title, and his country, begin and end with his wife Meghan. 

Kate Middleton gave Prince Harry practical relationship advice

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According to the book, the royal family was cautious when Prince Harry brought Meghan around for the first time. He had previously enjoyed a great relationship with his sister-in-law, Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge. Although Kate wasn’t a fan of the relationship, she tried to keep the peace. She gave Harry pragmatic advice that’s good for everyone to keep in mind. 

Sources who spoke to the authors of Royal at War claim that the Duchess of Cambridge spoke to Prince Harry and “gently reminded him that he was dating someone with a completely different life, past, and career and it would take time, care and attention for them to integrate.”

Any bicultural relationship can be difficult. People from different cultures often have different ideas about how relationships should work, and it takes time, communication, and compromise to reconcile expectations. While Kate’s advice is sound for any relationship, Prince William’s words of wisdom rubbed his brother the wrong way. 

Prince William told Prince Harry to take things slow with Meghan 

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US Magazine reported that Prince William thought Prince Harry was moving too fast. “The biggest cause of their so-called rift was Wills tried to warn Harry when he met Meghan not to rush into it,” Sky News broadcaster and journalist Carole Malone said in the documentary William & Harry: Princes at War. “He’d only known her for less than a year when they got engaged,” she said. “He sat him down and just told him to take it a bit slow, not to run at it.”

“It was all so quick that William and Kate didn’t have a moment to get to know Meghan because Harry hardly knew Meghan,” said Ingrid Seward, royal expert and editor in chief of Majesty magazine. “And, of course, quite naturally William and Kate would have thought, ‘Oh, she’s been married before, she’s older than Harry, I hope she’s going to make him happy.’ Anyone would think that.”

Emily Andrews, The Sun’s royal correspondent, said in the aforementioned documentary that Prince Harry’s response to Prince William’s feedback was not pleasant and he “went ballistic and said, ‘You’re trying to wreck this relationship before it’s even started.’” Author Katie Nicholl said, citing multiple sources close to the dukes, that “the dynamic changed” between the two princes and “there was a shift and it was largely down to Harry resenting his brother.”

The new book also claims that Prince William and Prince Harry’s relationship began to sour after Prince Harry brought Meghan into the family. Apparently Prince William did not approve of the relationship, and asked: “Is she the right one?” This reportedly offended Prince Harry, who is incredibly protective of Meghan.

While Prince William’s questions and feedbacks cast doubt on their relationship, Kate’s was more pragmatic. Her reminder was reportedly gentle and she also was bringing up valid concerns about their different backgrounds without questioning if Meghan was right or if their relationship timeline was too fast.

Blaming Prince Harry’s relationship with Prince William for Megxit downplays the role of the British tabloids 

It’s possible that Prince Harry and Prince William have a strained relationship. Sources have been suggesting it for years, but the princes have never said that anything is wrong in public.

What Prince Harry has said openly is that the British tabloids were attacking his new wife and that he would not tolerate it. Prince Harry has gone so far as to initiate legal action against one news outlet for their shady tactics. 

Ever since Prince Harry and Meghan’s relationship became public, she’s been hounded by the British press, and most of the coverage has been negative. This has clearly reminded Prince Harry of his mother’s ordeal and has brought up negative memories for him.

Although Prince William and Kate didn’t seem happy to see the Duke and Duchess of Sussex on their last trip to the UK, Prince Harry has said openly that the negative media coverage influenced his decision to leave the royal life. The fact that the authors of this book are part of the British press, and that they downplayed the impact of their industry on Megxit, is telling.