‘Married at First Sight’: Derek Says He ‘Doesn’t Feel Sexually Excited’ After His Fights With Katie
After eight weeks of marriage, the five Season 10 couples will have to decide whether they want to stay together and get a divorce. And judging by Derek’s recent exclusive interview with PopCulture.com and Katie’s comments on Married at First Sight: Unfiltered, it doesn’t look like it will be an easy decision for either one of them.
Katie claimed Derek didn’t initiate sex enough in some of their arguments
Derek and Katie fought bitterly almost immediately after they returned to Washington, D.C., after their honeymoon in Panama.
26-year-old Katie was frustrated with 26-year-old Derek’s dreams for the future, which she deemed “immature.” She also seemed jealous of his romantic history and even got into it with him on their last couple’s retreat before Decision Day. When Derek laughed it up with his castmate Taylor Dunklin, Katie wasn’t too happy.
The young couple also got into a massive argument the same weekend about Derek’s lack of initiative, both in their relationship in general and specifically in their sex life.
According to Reality TV World, the Married at First Sight alum and Unfiltered host, Jamie Otis, confronted Katie about her comments to Derek about “never making a move on her.”
“It seemed like Derek suggested he does initiate and that you say ‘no,’” Otis wondered.
But, in keeping with Katie’s ongoing complaint that Derek seems young for his age and isn’t “manly” enough, she claimed that Derek didn’t have enough game for her. “So, Derek had tried, one time, and I felt like it was just so forced,” the Married at First Sight star told Otis of her sex life with her husband.
Derek said he was ‘frustrated’ to hear Katie’s comments about their sex life
Meanwhile, Derek didn’t seem too pleased with his wife during a recent exclusive interview with PopCulture.com about his feelings going into Decision Day.
The Married at First Sight star said it was “disheartening” to hear Katie’s negative comments about him on the show. He also didn’t agree with her repeated comments about their sex life and claimed that he had often tried to initiate sex, but had been turned down.
“I felt frustrated,” Derek said in the interview. “There have been time and time again I’ve tried giving her romantic attention, but half the time she’s either not feeling it, it’s that time of the month or we just had an argument that day.”
The Married at First Sight star also indicated that he wasn’t happy about Katie’s love of conflict. “Maybe it’s just me, but I don’t get sexually excited after our arguments,” he said sarcastically.
The ‘Married at First Sight’ star also claimed he had had too much patience with his wife
In the interview, Derek expressed other doubts about his tumultuous marriage to Katie in advance of his decision. He hadn’t liked Katie’s jealousy over his interactions with Taylor, for example.
“I started asking myself if this was how it was going to be if I ever have some of my closest friends over,” the Married at First Sight star confessed. “I understand that I could do a better job of making her feel more special than everyone else if we’re all hanging out. But is it really that bad if I’m able to enjoy myself in a conversation with someone that isn’t her?”
Derek even seemed to muse that he might have been too much of a pushover with his wife, as many viewers have claimed while watching their onscreen arguments.
“Another thing I took out of this is that sometimes patience isn’t key,” Derek said. “Throughout most of our relationship there were definitely times that tested my patience, but I always tried to hold onto it. It wasn’t until later that I realized sometimes it’s just better to let it out. Otherwise they may never stop.”