While Meka wanted to take things slow, Michael allegedly told his wife he wanted to have sex on their honeymoon or he would have trouble taking the marriage seriously. (He denies giving her an ultimatum.)
Meka and Michael sat down with Pastor Cal Roberson on the Feb. 12 episode of Married at First Sight, “New Wife, New Life,” to hash out their disagreement. Michael revealed that his complicated family history played a role in how he views physical intimacy.
Meka and Michael discussed their future with Pastor Cal
Michael and Meka began their session with Pastor Cal by discussing their financial status as a married couple.
“Have you discussed finances?” Pastor Cal asked. Michael replied that they had, and that Meka knew he pulled in significantly more income than she did, especially with his recent promotion. The Married at First Sight couple agreed that they were on the same page when it came to careers and money.
“I think that’s definitely good,” Meka confessed. “I honestly wanted somebody to make more than me. I’m tired of being the breadwinner. So I wanted somebody to at least make the same as me, if not more.”
“I wouldn’t want to feel like I’m always pulling someone along,” she added, admitting that she had felt like that in previous relationships.
Michael’s adoption shaped the way he sees his work and life
“I would like to have two children and then adopt a third,” Michael said, while Meka agreed that she was “open” to adoption.
Michael explained that his own personal history had made him want to adopt. “There’s always a need for black parents to adopt, especially kids at a certain age,” the education specialist and school principal explained. “My mother gave me up when I was nine months to my aunt, and I think a lot of it has shaped how I think about the world.”
He explained that his career in education “tied into his story.” “Especially the kind of work I do, because I put all of my passion into the children,” he revealed.
The ‘Married at First Sight’ star said he had never felt ‘motherly affection’
His career and desire to adopt weren’t the only things Michael said were affected by his family history. Although Meka and Michael fought over what Meka perceived as her husband’s insistence that they have sex on their honeymoon, Michael said he just placed a lot of importance on physical affection because of his background.
“The reason why my love languages are the way they are is not intimacy based on the idea of sex,” Michael told his wife. “It’s the idea that those things are important to me because, being adopted, you’re missing that kind of motherly affection.”
The Married at First Sight star explained that his loneliness as a child and feelings of abandonment had made physical touch and intimacy crucial for him in a relationship. “So it’s very important to me to have that closeness in that space, and it doesn’t mean sex,” he said. “It’s just, I want to feel close and bond with that person that I’m intentionally spending time with.”