Matthew McConaughey Once Revealed the Problem With Dating Women Who Weren’t Famous

Before he married Camila Alves, Matthew McConaughey had relationships with some very famous women. Romances with Penelope Cruz and Sandra Bullock got a lot of attention, and one of McConaughey’s vintage interviews may provide the key as to why. 

Matthew McConaughey and Camila Alves in public
Matthew McConaughey and Camila Alves | Gotham/GC Images

The How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days press junket gave McConaughey an opportunity to get real about his love life up to that point. In the film he played a ladies man determined to keep Kate Hudson attached, even though she was purposely trying to scare him away. At the 2003 junket, McConaughey revealed why it was challenging to date women outside his strata.

Non-celebrities had an unfair advantage over Matthew McConaughey 

By 2003 McConaughey was already a big star. He’d had hit movies like A Time to Kill, Contact and The Wedding Planner. Plus, his real-life exploits like his naked bongo incident made headlines. 

Matthew McConaughey and Sandra Bullock
Matthew McConaughey and Sandra Bullock | Steve Granitz/WireImage

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“What can be an odd thing is if you’re famous and the other person’s not,” McConaguhey said. “That other person comes in, however much they believe it or not, they already sort of have a bio, just like us sitting down here. I don’t know any of you all but you already have somewhat of a sense of who I am or who you think I am. How much of that’s true or not? I don’t know. It’s very hard to have that courtship. The great part about the courtship is it’s two strangers.”

Matthew McConaughey wanted to get to know women

McConaughey lamented that he never really got to have that “getting to know you” phase with women. Or, if he did, he was still fighting against their preconceived notions of him.

Matthew McConaughey and Camila Alves
Matthew McConaughey and Camila Alves | Slaven Vlasic/Getty Images for STXfilms

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“It starts off with ‘Hey, what’s your name?’” McConaughey said. “It’s a great place to start. So, a lot of times a relationship with someone like me could start with, ‘So, how’s Ms. Hud?’ I’m going, ‘Wait a minute. How did you know I had a dog? How did you know her name was Ms. Hud?’ You’re already asking about the dog. What happened to ‘What do you do?’ That can be kind of funky and funny.”

Fame followed him around 

Perhaps dating other actors gave McConaughey a common ground. It also meant the other person was used to dealing with paparazzi following them around.

Matthew McConaughey and Penelope Cruz
Penelope Cruz and Matthew McConaughey | Eduardo Parra/FilmMagic

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“It’s not impossible,” McConaughey said. “I used to think it was a little more weird, but now, I pretty much take more the prescription of I like what I’m doing. I like whoever I’m spending time with, so if I’m going out, that’s part of going out. Someone’s there when we walk out the door. It’s part of it. If I don’t like that, don’t go out.”

McConaughey found ways to get comfortable with the intrusion, although that probably didn’t make dating any easier.

“So, instead of fighting it, going, ‘God, I can’t believe, what are they doing? I can’t believe this long shot through the window, get a life,’” McConaughey said. “Whatever it is, fighting it is ridiculous. You’ve got to get the joke. Get it and sort of go with it instead of fight it.”