‘Million Dollar Matchmaker’: The Real Reason Patti Stanger Never Got Married

It seems like some sort of cruel joke – you find people love matches for a living, yet you can’t seem to find a perfect match for yourself. Yet when it comes to Patti Stanger, star of the hit reality show Million Dollar Matchmaker, that’s exactly what happened.

Who is Patti Stanger?

Patti Stanger

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The self-described love guru is a third-generation matchmaker and exceptionally proud of her ability to make love connections. After graduating college and spending a short time as the Marketing Director of a dating website, Patti Stanger decided to launch her own matchmaking company. She called it The Millionaires Club.

Not just anyone could join, of course. Only clients with an impressive bank account (and yes, they required proof of financial status) were offered coveted spots in the club. But what they got in return was Stanger’s matchmaking skills and a plethora of eligible dates. With her special combination of tough love and a knack for predicting who would have chemistry, Patti Stanger successfully helped launch hundreds of relationships.

From small-town matchmaker to television star

Life changed forever when television producers came knocking at Stanger’s door. The reality show based on her approach to matchmaking and exclusive club was an instant hit. The Millionaire Matchmaker originally aired on Bravo, but it was later rebranded and now lives on WeTV as Million Dollar Matchmaker. The name may be different, but the idea is the same. Patti helps really rich people find love. It’s entertaining, surprising, and feels so good to watch.

But it wasn’t long before those fans started to wonder: Was Stanger in a relationship herself? Surely with so much insight into matchmaking and finding love, she must have found the man of her dreams a long time ago. Right?

Well, not exactly.

Patti Stanger had a tough time finding love

She may be a success in her matchmaking business – but her personal life hasn’t been so simple. Stanger has been romantically linked to John Matthews and David Krause, plus she was engaged to Andy Friedman. But the queen of love has never actually been married.

Why did those relationships fail? All the usual reasons, of course. Patti blamed her breakup with one boyfriend on his astrological sign. She said, “For my next guy, I’m looking at our charts right away and believing what I see.”

When explaining the breakup with David, Stanger was sad but also seemed wiser in the wake of the split. “It’s unfortunate for a million and one reasons and obviously hard and sad for both of us,” she said in 2012. “Parts of me wish neither of us had to go through this. At the same time, I realize that this relationship and break up had to happen because I needed to learn a lot of lessons I never would have been able to learn without dating David.”

Patti Stanger and David Krause

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Patti wants to become a mom one day

One of her most serious relationships was the one with Andy Friedman in 2010. The reason for that break-up was serious; she wanted kids and he didn’t. As Stanger said on Twitter: I just ended my relationship with Andy. It hit me really hard that I want kids in my life. You have to agree on the non-negotiables.”

Of course, Patti Stanger always tells her clients that it’s never too late to find love. When you find the right one, you know, and everything clicks. It’s still possible Patti will find the fairytale romance that she’s always wanted for herself.