Rachael Ray Shares Marriage Advice Ahead of 15 Year Anniversary with John Cusimano — ‘We Actually Like Each Other’

Long-lasting celebrity relationships have become a rarity in the world. You’re much more likely to encounter 72-hour marriages than you are to find long-term, committed partnerships, at least in Hollywood. But Food Network host and best-selling cookbook author Rachael Ray and her husband, musician John Cusimano, are the shining exception to this rule.

Ray and Cusimano are preparing to celebrate a milestone anniversary this year and opened up with a few secrets for keeping their relationship strong.

John Cusimano and Rachael Ray
John M. Cusimano and Rachael Ray | Cindy Ord/Getty Images

Rachael Ray said it was love at first sight with her husband John

Everything about Ray and Cusimano’s relationship has been intense. The 51-year-old celebrity chef said she met her future spouse at a party and experienced an instant, magnetic connection.

“We walked directly across the room to each other,” Ray told AOL in 2014. “My husband and I have been together on the phone or in person every single day since the night we met.”

Rachael Ray and John Cusimano
Rachael Ray and John Cusimano | Alexander Tamargo/Getty Images for SOBEWFF

These two enjoy hanging out with each other

Having a successful marriage means more than just supporting each other’s careers — for Ray and Cusimano, it’s all about how they spend their downtime, too.

“We actually like each other, have a lot of the same interests, and find it sexy to share bad behavior, like staying up too late, eating the wrong foods, and listening to loud music—rap, opera and any of our 3,000 records—wherever we are,” Ray told People.

Ray explained that having commonalities is important for a successful relationship. As an example, both she and John don’t stick to strict schedules. Identical preferences help keep these two super close.

Rachael Ray and John Cusimano aren’t afraid to fight

Sustaining a strong marriage takes work and like other couples, Ray and Cusimano have their share of disagreements. However, they refuse to become passive aggressive or let resentments fester. They recommend fighting — loudly.

“When we are mad at each other we scream,” the Rachael Ray Everyday host said during the interview. “If John is being an a**hole, I tell him, then I feel better. And John does the same thing. We share a great sense of humor which helps.”

She continued, saying, “We yell to get it out, then move on. We kiss, cut up vegetables, and John makes cocktails.”

They balance togetherness and being busy perfectly

With both Cusimano and Ray moving so quickly in different directions, there are plenty of times when they’re forced to be apart. But they don’t mind at all.

“I can’t give a man an enormous amount of attention,” Ray said of her relationship with John, E! News reported. “And John is totally down with that. When men I have dated over the years whined about, ‘Oh, you make no time for me’—see ya! I just dumped them. I don’t need that pressure in my life.”

She also said that Cusimano is the “only man” she could have married because he’s so chill and easygoing about her crazy schedule.

This sweet couple plans to return to Tuscany, to the same castle they got married in, to celebrate their 15 year wedding anniversary. We wish them many more happy years together!