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Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star, Erika Jayne, has announced that she will be divorcing her second husband, Tom Girardi. Jayne and Girardi’s union has been heavily questioned in recent years, with many fans assuming she married Girardi for his money. Now, 21 years after they tied the knot, they are separating, and one insider claims the couple has been living separate lives for years.

How did Erika Jayne and Tom Girardi meet?

Jayne had already been married to Girardi for more than a decade when she joined the cast of Real Housewives of Beverly Hills in the show’s fifth season. There was some serious curiosity about the union the moment that Girardi was introduced. The story of how they met, however, is surprisingly mundane.

Erika Jayne attends Rihanna's Savage X Fenty Show Vol. 2 presented by Amazon Prime Video at the Los Angeles Convention Center
Erika Jayne | Jerritt Clark/Getty Images for Savage X Fenty Show Vol. 2 Presented by Amazon Prime Video

According to Bustle, Jayne took the lead when it came to making the relationship happen. According to the publication, Jayne was working as a waitress when Girardi walked into the restaurant. She slipped him her phone number, and from there, the pair started dating. Jayne had been married once before and has one child. Little is known about Girardi’s private life before he hooked up with Jayne.

The couple has dealt with years of criticism over their marriage

While Jayne has long insisted her relationship was the real deal, she was subjected to a fair bit of criticism. Jayne and Girardi’s age gap raised eyebrows with Real Housewives of Beverly Hills fans, and have led to questions about the legitimacy of the union.

Girardi and Jayne are 32 years apart in age. Girardi was already 60 years old when he married Jayne in 1999. His blushing bride was still in her 20s. For years, Jayne has insisted that she married Girardi because she enjoyed his company, but an insider has revealed that the pair may not have had a love story for the ages.

A reported insider claims Erika Jayne and Tom Girardi have been living separate lives for years

While the couple just recently announced their separation, a reported insider told In Touch Weekly that the pair have been living separate lives for years. The insider, who was not named, claimed Jayne and Girardi’s relationship wasn’t filled with chemistry or romantic love. In fact, they claim the pair were more like good friends than lovers. 

Erika Jayne speaks onstage during the 30th Annual GLAAD Media Awards
Erika Jayne | Matt Winkelmeyer/Getty Images for GLAAD

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That doesn’t mean there was a nefarious reason for their partnership, though. Jayne and Girardi were just in two different phases of their lives, and while that worked for years, the lockdown reportedly showed them that they were truly incompatible. Jayne issued a statement about the separation on Nov. 3. In her announcement, she reiterated that she has nothing but love for Girardi and the life they built together. Fans are waiting to see if the divorce will be an amicable one.