‘RHONY’: Jill Zarin Shares Some of the Most Valuable Lessons She Learned From Bobby

Jill Zarin from The Real Housewives of New York City fondly remembered her late husband Bobby on what would have been their 19th anniversary on January 4.

 Jill Zarin and Bobby Zarin at the 2016 Angel Ball
Jill Zarin and Bobby Zarin at the 2016 Angel Ball | Gonzalo Marroquin/Patrick McMullan via Getty Images

Zarin’s beloved husband died in 2018 after a battle with cancer. Some of the cast attended his funeral, which was captured during season 10. Zarin and cast member Bethenny Frankel ultimately reconnected during the funeral and had a tearful, heartfelt moment. She and Frankel had a brutal falling out during Zarin’s last season of the show. Zarin was angry with Frankel when she didn’t feel as though Frankel showed up for her husband when he was diagnosed with cancer.

After Zarin’s husband passed away she shared that he always wanted her to resolve her dispute with Frankel. She recently reflected on other lessons he left with her.

She says Bobby would be proud

Zarin shares that she’s grown over the past few years. She posted a photo on what have been her anniversary with Bobby and writes that she feels him watching over her. “Today would have been our 19th Anniversary,” Zarin write. “Bobby Zarin, Mr. B, Bobby Baby….I think of you everyday. I feel you watching over me all the time and @jenniferrogersbelieve calls me with messages.”

“Thank God because I needed you so many times when I didn’t know what to do and you told her and she told me. You would be so proud of me and of Ally. All the little lessons you taught us, many by example were not wasted. Including @jon_wexler I might add! HE! even turns off the lights now. When it comes to judging people, good, bad or indifferent, you are still , sadly in some cases, ALWAYS right. But I will always try to to the right thing no matter what. Thank you for always watching over me…. I will always love you … Xoxo Jill.”

She also shares lessons learned

A few days after her anniversary, she recalled the lessons she learned from Bobby. “What can I say that hasn’t been said or felt,” she began her Instagram post. “How about the lessons Bobby Zarin taught me and that I use every day. I am sorry I never appreciated you as much as I should have. I’m sorry I didn’t listen to you too many times to count, to then say, ‘I should have listened to Bobby.’ You always knew who to trust and who to walk away from. Me.. not so much!”

Zarin recalled her husband’s immense patience and ability to listen. “You always had patience for me like my father still does and let me be me and knew I needed to learn the lessons myself sometimes the hardest way.” She adds, “[Bobby was] the best listener and biggest giver.”

Additionally, she also remembers her husband’s generosity and giving nature. She adds that he would never “’back me up’ because the NUMBER 1 Bobby Zarin rule for a stepparent is don’t get involved! He always said Ally would forgive me for almost anything but if Bobby would say one cross word to her she would never forget. Of course, Bobby was RIGHT again. That’s why Ally loved him so much. Bobby always knew the right thing to do in all situations. Bobby always said ‘Take the High Road’ and one of his favorites was ‘it’s all good,’ meaning don’t let anything upset you. Life is too short… he was sadly 100 % right again.”