‘RHONY’: One Surprising Friend Defends Ramona Singer Over Being Called a Racist

In a surprising twist, former friend Elyse Slaine from The Real Housewives of New York City refuted the claims that Ramona Singer is a racist.

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Slaine, who was friends with Singer for years, previously shared that Singer iced her out when she filmed with the cast this season. But Slaine separated the rejection with what she believes is a fact that she’s never witnessed Singer being racist. Slaine spoke openly on a What To Do With Marshall Instagram interview where she discussed her falling out with Singer and also the claims of racism against Singer.

During the Black Lives Matter and racial injustice protests, Singer posted “all lives matter.” She removed her comment when she was slammed for the remark and admitted she was still learning.

‘You could call her a lot of different things but racist isn’t one of them’

Slaine addressed the backlash against Singer and put her feelings aside to offer an objective opinion.

“I even recently defended her even though we have nothing to do with one another, but when she got called racist, I defended her,” Slaine shared. “You could call her a lot of different things but racist isn’t one of them.”

One of the people calling Singer out was newcomer Leah McSweeney. “Leah is very knowledgeable about politics and about causes and social justice, so Leah understood that that comment would be offensive, but Ramona wouldn’t understand that,” Slaine continued. 

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Adding, “I’m the last person who wants to defend Ramona because I think she behaves so badly with me, but I have to call a spade a spade, and she’s not racist.”

But Slaine still doesn’t understand Singer’s ‘hot and cold’ personality

Slaine shared that Singer was insistent that she join the cast this season. But then virtually ghosted her once she got on the show. “Ramona and I had a falling out somewhere mid-season,” she said. “I can’t even tell you what it was about. She brought me into this group; she was very aggressive about bringing me into this group and then suddenly changed her mind about it, I guess, and no longer wanted me to be a part of this group.”

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“I’m not sure what her thought process was, but we were very good friends going into this,” Slaine continued. “We talked three times a day. I truly took her in like family. She would just walk into my house and my apartment without knocking. I can’t really identify what went wrong but something went very wrong. For whatever reason, we were never really able to get to the bottom of it or discuss it. But I always took the high road when asked about it publicly so nobody knew that we were fighting outside of the girls on the show.” 

Will they ever be friends again?

Is there hope for a reconciliation? Perhaps on Slaine’s end. “Never say never,” she said. “We’re in the same friend group, an intimate friend group. So it will definitely complicate things if we’re not on speaking terms.”

“But I really would have to understand why she behaved the way she did,” she added. “I could be pretty objective when I look at myself and I look at my behavior. I can step back and say ‘Oh, I should have done this differently or I should have done that differently.'”

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She adds, “I can’t think of anything that I should have done differently, so if she could point something out, I’ll own it if I agree with her. If I think she’s being completely irrational then I’ll expect an apology. If none of this happens, then, so be it. Anyone who puts their tail between their legs and apologizes is forgiven.”