‘Sex and the City’: 3 Indications That Samantha Jones Wasn’t All That Cool With Just Hooking up

Sex and the City fans know each of the four ladies well enough at this point to pinpoint personality traits. Carrie Bradshaw was constantly on the hunt for her next big love, Charlotte York was desperate to settle down, and Miranda Hobbes was professionally powerful but romantically cynical. Samantha Jones was the wild card. She was unapologetic about sex and her desire to forgo traditional relationships. Was she all that cool with just hooking up, though? Three moments during the series made it obvious that Samantha might have wanted more from her conquests but was too afraid to ask.

In the pilot of Sex and the City, Samantha Jones hesitated when her hookup told her she couldn’t spend the night

Samantha was depicted as an independent woman on the prowl for a new man every night from the very first episode. Still, a little vulnerability snuck in during the pilot episode. After Charlotte opted out of spending the night with her date, Capote Duncan, he ended up meeting Samantha at a bar.

Sarah Jessica Parker and Kim Cattrall film a scene for 'Sex and the City' in 2001
Sarah Jessica Parker as Carrie Bradshaw and Kim Cattrall as Samantha Jones | Tom Kingston/WireImage

Samantha and Capote headed back to his apartment. When he tells her that she can’t spend the evening, she says it’s OK, but there is a moment of hesitation in her answer. While she insisted she was cool with hooking up like a man, it’s clear that she might have, at some point, been searching for more. Capote Duncan might not have been who she was after, but the rejection still seemed to sting, even if just a little bit.

She had her heart broken twice by the same guy

In Season 2, Samantha came face-to-face with the only man who had ever broken her heart. She insisted she rose above Dominic and that she could no longer be bothered by him. Samantha decided to prove that by sleeping with him one more time, hoping to leave him before he left her.

KIm Cattrall as Samantha Jones shoots of a scene for 'Sex and the City' in 2001
Kim Cattrall as Samanatha Jones | James Devaney/WireImage

That’s not how it worked out, though. After spending the night together, Dominic informed Samantha that he was going back to the woman he left her for. She insisted she was angry about not getting to leave him first. Fans don’t buy it though. It was pretty clear that the abandonment bothered Samantha. She never saw Dominic again. 

Samantha Jones was vulnerable while sick with the flu

Samantha not only talked the talk, but she walked the walk, most of the time, at least. Still, she had moments where a desire to have someone to lean on crept in. In season 3, Samantha found herself sick with the flu. A broken curtain rod and a run through her Rolodex made it painfully clear that the men in her life were never going to be there for her. Her initial anger eventually turned into hurt.

Kim Cattrall on location for 'Sex and the City'
Kim Cattrall as Samantha Jones in ‘Sex and the City’ | James Devaney/WireImage

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When Carrie showed up to help out, Samantha broke down, explaining to Carrie that she was all alone. A couple of days, some fever reducer, and one party later, she was back to her old self. Still, the moment of vulnerability was unsettling for Sex and the City fans. It was definitive proof that even someone as strong as Samantha could feel lonely.