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‘Sex and the City’: 3 Reasons Charlotte York Was The Absolute Worst

'Sex and the City' may have focused on four friends as they traversed Manhattan's dating scene together, but all four friends were not created equal. There differing personalities gave the show life, but have you ever thought about how mean and judgmental Charlotte York was?

Sex and the City appeared to craft its main characters around different stereotypes of women. Samantha Jones was sexually liberated and operated “like a man.” Miranda Hobbs was the unyielding type-A personality whose professional triumphs didn’t seem to translate into the world of romance. Carrie Bradshaw was the extroverted free-spirit, and Charlotte York was supposed to be the “traditional” one. While that may have worked the early 2000s, Charlotte’s “traditional” outlook seems pretty dated now. Looking back, Charlotte was a pretty awful person.

Charlotte’s single-minded obsession with getting married made her pretty sad

Charlotte had one goal for the duration of Sex and the City. She wished to get married, have children, and own nice bedding. While she was well-educated and seemed to have a great job, her entire goal in life appeared to be locking down a wealthy man. While there is nothing wrong with wanting to get married, Charlotte’s pursuit of marriage was a little bit over the top, and it often made her seem desperate and a little bit crazy.

Kristin Davis as Charlotte York and Sarah Jessica Parker as Carrie Bradshaw on location for 'Sex and the City'
Kristin Davis as Charlotte York and Sarah Jessica Parker as Carrie Bradshaw | Tom Kingston/WireImage

The single-minded obsession with marrying the “right” kind of man also led her astray. She agreed to marry Trey McDougal after a month of dating, and while it is never explicitly stated why it seems pretty apparent, Trey was good on paper. He was handsome, he was successful, and he was from a wealthy family. Charlotte clearly didn’t know much else about Trey when she proposed to herself, and that was perfectly fine with her.

Charlotte York was extremely judgemental

Charlotte approached getting married like it was a business proposition. Her single-minded obsession also bled over into how she treated her friends. In short, Charlotte judged anyone who didn’t have the same, strict, romantic goals as her, and that was pretty harsh. She took personal offense when Carrie cheated on Aidan Shaw as if it somehow affected her. She never missed an opportunity to slut-shame Samantha, and she was downright awful when Miranda wrestled with how to deal with her unplanned pregnancy.

Charlotte simply never missed a chance to judge people who weren’t living their lives just like her. She also never missed the opportunity to impose her strict “rules” on others, too, points out Buzzfeed. For example, she suggested that Carrie’s budding relationship with Mr. Big wasn’t working out because she slept with him on the first date. Later, she indicated that Carrie needed to wait at least six months to get over Big before she dated anyone else.

Charlotte was selfish and superficial

Charlotte was a terrible character for several reasons, but everything seems to boil down to the fact that she was incredibly selfish and superficial. She also did very little maturing, even when life threw her curveballs. Instead of learning from her mistakes, she was prone to whining and making the same mistakes repeatedly.

Mario Cantone as Anthony Marentino and Kristin Davis as Charlotte York on location in Central Park
Mario Cantone as Anthony Marentino and Kristin Davis as Charlotte York | James Devaney/WireImage

When she met Harry Goldenblatt and started a secret, sexual relationship with him, she was pretty hard on him. She admitted to Anthony that she couldn’t date him because he was “not very attractive.” Viewers could give her a pass on her early views of Harry, but after months of dating, she still felt the same way about his looks. She even told him, without missing a beat, that she was better looking than him, and thus he should have proposed to her.  

All ended well for Charlotte, though. Harry eventually proposed, and they lived happily ever after. That, however, seemed to have more to do with Harry’s good nature than Charlotte’s ability to look past the differences in their appearances.