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Sex and the City, on the surface, looked like a fun and provocative show for women in their 20s and 30s. 16 years after the show’s final episode aired, fans are still learning things from Carrie Bradshaw and her three amazing pals, Samantha Jones, Miranda Hobbs, and Charlotte York. Carrie, who served as a sort of narrator for the series, dropped some pretty thought-provoking statements on fans over the years, proving that, while she had bad qualities, Carrie had a lot of wisdom to share.

Carrie was totally into the idea of treating herself

Even though Carrie was in relationships rather often, she spent a good portion of the show’s six-season run single. Anyone who has been single for a long period in their adult years knows that a little bit of self-care is important. Whether that means hitting the gym, having a weekly brunch date with pals, or sinking into a bubble bath, self-care can make being single feel pretty great.

Sarah Jessica Parker as Carrie Bradshaw in 'Sex and the City'
Sarah Jessica Parker as Carrie Bradshaw | Mark Mainz/Getty Images

Carrie understood the need for self-care better than most people. Sure, her version of self-care included purchasing $400 shoes, but still. Carrie dropped this little gem on fans during one of her single periods. She said, ‘The fact is, sometimes it’s really hard to walk in a single woman’s shoes. That’s why we need really special ones now and then to make the walk a little more fun.”

Carrie had a pretty solid understanding of relationships

Carrie made a lot of mistakes when it came to her romantic relationships. She picked the wrong men, and she clung hard to relationships that no longer served her. She also pulled back from romances that seemed to good to be true, and so did her friends. When all was said and done, though, she really did seem to have a solid grasp of how love worked. Love isn’t neat and tidy. Each love, no matter how messy, can teach you a lesson. When discussing the end of Samantha’s only serious relationship, Carrie seemed to finally understand that there is no “end game” necessary when it comes to love. She said, “Some love stories aren’t epic novels — some are short stories. But that doesn’t make them any less filled with love.”

The cast of 'Sex and the City'
The cast of ‘Sex and the City’ | Bobby Bank/WireImage

Carrie also offered fans a little gem about relationships that just don’t work, no matter how much you may want them to. Regarding her relationship with Mr. Big she said, “You and I are like that red wall. It’s a good idea in theory, but somehow it doesn’t quite work.”  Depending on who you ask, Carrie might have been wrong about this one. The statement was made at the end of season 3 after Carrie met up with Mr. Big after their tryst caused the end of Big’s marriage and the demise of Carrie’s relationship with Aidan. In the end, Carrie and Mr. Big did end up together, but whether or not they really worked depends on how you look at their relationship. It’s safe to say, however, that the road to marriage for the charming duo was not a smooth one.

Carrie understood that loving herself was pretty important

Single ladies the world over connected with Carrie and her friends. Each of the women embodied some truly irritating and truly refreshing qualities. Samantha was self-assured, Miranda was successful and independent, and Charlotte knew exactly what she wanted and wasn’t afraid to go after it. Carrie was someone who, over the years, figured out that her relationship with herself was the most important one she would ever have in her life.

Sarah Jessica Parker as Carrie Bradshaw in ‘Sex and the City’ | Getty Images
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During a break in her dating life, Carrie hit fans with a truly wonderful thought. She said,  “The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you that you love, well, that’s just fabulous.” Those certainly sound like words to live by. In the end, Carrie got her happy ending, as did the rest of her pals. Each happy ending looked a little bit different, and that’s perfectly OK.