‘Sex and the City’: Here’s How Sarah Jessica Parker Really Feels About Carrie and Big Ending up Together

Everyone has their own strong opinion about whether or not Carrie and Mr. Big should have ended up together. While some Sex and the City fans are adamant that their relationship was toxic, others think they were destined to be together for eternity. But where does Sarah Jessica Parker stand on the forever debated topic? Does she believe that Carrie and Big were meant for each other?

Chris Noth and Sarah Jessica Parker
Chris Noth and Sarah Jessica Parker | Michael Caulfield/WireImage

Some ‘Sex and the City’ writers were not happy with Carrie and Big

There seemed to be a feud in the writers’ room for Sex and the City. While half of the writers believed it had to be Carrie and Big, others insisted that she needed to be single so that the underlying message of the series could be executed appropriately.

According to the book titled Sex and the City and Us, one of the show’s goals was to emphasize how rewarding it can be to be single at a certain age. One of the major focuses on Sex and the City is that these women don’t need to end up with a man to be fulfilled.

And according to Darren Star, the producer of the series, he thinks Carrie and Big’s marriage “betrayed” what the show is all about.

“I think the show ultimately betrayed what it was about, which was that women don’t ultimately find happiness from marriage,” he said, according to Glamour. “Not that they can’t. But the show initially was going off script from the romantic comedies that had come before it. That’s what had made women so attached.”

But in the end, he was dissatisfied when the series turned out to be like any other rom-com.
“At the end, it became a conventional romantic comedy,” he said.

How does Sarah Jessica Parker feel about Carrie and Mr. Big?

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While Star isn’t a fan of Carrie and Big’s ending, Parker is glad that Carrie finally got what she has always wanted in the end.

“As I recall, the way Carrie and Big married was something she wanted, rather than a feeling that life was slipping away and she best settle quickly,” Parker said, via Today. “I don’t think of it as someone diminishing herself by letting a man marry her — it always felt that she had arrived at that on her own. But the beauty is we can all have lots and lots of opinions about lots of choices Carrie made that we object to or that we stand by.”

Sarah Jessica Parker weighs in on whether she’s Team Big or Team Aidan

While Carrie is obviously “Team Big,” what is SJP?

According to the actor, she is definitely “Team Big.”

“There is a very quick and simple answer. You have to be Team Big… I guess only because you can’t tell a story that long and not in the most conventional way kind of root for that ending,” she said. “And I love Chris Noth so much, and it felt wonderfully and skillfully written by Michael Patrick [King].”

But according to Parker, she loves Aidan as well.

“But I love John Corbett so much, and I loved Aidan. I loved his Aidan,” she added. “The best of both worlds is, in fact, having your cake and eating it too. So I feel like I got both teams. Ultimately, Carrie should have ended up with Big, but it was a delight to mess around before she arrived at that.”