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‘Sex and the City’: Was Mr. Big More Compatible With Samantha Jones?

Carrie Bradshaw met her long-term love, Mr. Big, in the pilot episode of 'Sex and the City'. For six seasons, fans watched as the pair attempted to figure out their relationship. Eventually, they did. Still, Samantha Jones might have better suited Mr. Big's relationship style.

Sex and the City’s four main ladies spent six seasons dating in New York. Surprisingly, there was very little overlap in their dating lives. That doesn’t mean there was none, though. Samantha Jones and Charlotte York once pursued the same love interest, and Miranda Hobbes briefly dated one of Carrie Bradshaw’s old boyfriends. Let us not forget that Samantha was initially interested in Mr. Big before he became Carrie’s big love. Big might have brutally rebuffed her, but when you think about it, the duo might have been more compatible than Carrie and her eventual husband.

In season 1 of Sex and the City, Samantha Jones was interested in dating Mr. Big

While Carrie fell head over heels in love with Mr. Big after running into him on a crowded Manhattan street, she wasn’t the first member of her girl group to lay eyes on him. Samantha Jones was well aware of Mr. Big before Carrie met him and was initially interested in sleeping with him. Samantha approached Mr. Big in the pilot episode. He turned down her invitation to take things to a private room. The tryst Samantha envisioned never happened.

Chris Noth smiles at the camera from the back of a car during the filming of 'Sex and the City: The Movie' in New York City
Chris Noth on the set of ‘Sex and the City: The Movie’ | James Devaney/WireImage

Shortly after Samantha approached Big, he and Carrie started dating, and the rest was history. Samantha never mentioned her interest in the mysterious financier again. Her attraction to him appeared to evaporate almost instantaneously.

Carrie and Mr. Big’s relationship was rife with problems because they were inherently incompatible

Mr. Big may have been Carrie’s big love, but that doesn’t mean their relationship was easy. Carrie and Mr. Big were incredibly incompatible, and that incompatibility led to their repeated breakups. Big was stoic, emotionally closed-off, and extremely uncomfortable with big shows of emotion. When he and Carrie first started dating, he was looking for something casual and had a clear and obvious fear of commitment.

Sarah Jessica Parker as Carrie Bradshaw and Chris Noth as Mr. Big stand outside of her brownstone apartment in 'Sex and the City'
Sarah Jessica Parker as Carrie Bradshaw and Chris Noth as Mr. Big in ‘Sex and the City’ | Debra L Rothenberg/FilmMagic

Carrie was the exact opposite. She was prone to emotional outbursts, couldn’t hide her feelings, and wanted nothing more than to have Big commit to her long-term. When the pair finally got married at the end of Sex and the City: The Movie, fans assumed they had worked through their issues. By Sex and the City 2, it was obvious that their incompatibility was still a serious problem in their union.

Samantha Jones and Mr. Big had similar outlooks on relationships

Samantha didn’t feel the need to put labels on her relationships. Even when she did involve herself with a man for an extended period, she wasn’t huge on the notion of commitment. In short, she was largely OK with keeping things casual, at least emotionally. Samantha wasn’t prone to emotional moments, and she wasn’t looking for a man to complete her.

Kim Cattrall poses for a portait for 'Sex and the City'
Kim Cattrall as Samantha Jones | HBO/Getty Images

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When you think about it, Mr. Big and Samantha approached relationships similarly. The pair likely could have been happy together, living mostly separate lives, but meeting up for hookups and fun outings. Even if Mr. Big and Samantha were better on paper, most fans agree that Mr. Big belongs with Carrie and Samantha found her ultimate match in Smith Jerrod.