‘Sister Wives’: Kody Brown Admits He’s Emotionally Exhausted, Burnt Out, and ‘Stalling’ in His Marriages – ‘One of the Worst Fights I’ve Ever Had With a Woman’

Polygamist patriarch Kody Brown of TLC’s Sister Wives and his four wives – Meri, Janelle, Christine, and Robyn Brown – moved from Las Vegas to Flagstaff, Arizona, in 2018.

Not long afterward, they bought a plot of land called Coyote Pass, where they planned to build homes. But after an extended kerfuffle between Kody and his wives over building one large home for all of them (with Kody and Janelle in favor, Meri and Robyn undecided, and Christine firmly against the idea), their plans were shelved for the moment.

On recent episodes of Sister Wives, the debate about building on Coyote Pass raged on within the Brown family. Kody admitted that, contrary to his earlier enthusiasm, he no longer felt any motivation to lead the family to spend more time together or even to start building on their land in Arizona.

Kody, Meri, Janelle, and Christine Brown sitting on the couch on an episode of 'Good Morning America' in 2011
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Janelle and Christine wondered why Kody wasn’t keen to build on Coyote Pass

On a recent Sister Wives episode, Kody’s third wife, Christine, called a family meeting to reveal that her home back in Las Vegas – the last of the wives’ four homes in Nevada to sell – had finally gone off the market. Naturally, Christine thought the next step was for the Brown family to start building on their Flagstaff property.

“Now is the time for us to make a plan about what to do at Coyote Pass,” Christine declared. “It’s time.”

Her sister wives agreed wholeheartedly. But Kody wasn’t on board – and they didn’t exactly understand why.

“I think Christine, Robyn, Meri, and I are all like, ‘OK, let’s go! Let’s get the surveyor! Let’s get out there!’” Kody’s second wife, Janelle, said, admitting she was perplexed about why her husband didn’t want to move forward. “And I think Kody runs around with this thousand-yard stare. He’s spread so thin…He’s just reacting at this point instead of planning.”

Meri, Kody’s first wife, agreed with that assessment. She wondered whether the family’s rather subpar “emotional health” could be contributing to the delay.

And Robyn, Kody’s fourth wife, said she was especially anxious for her kids to be able to experience a different life in polygamy by living closer to their siblings. Unfortunately, she pointed out, they could only get started if Kody made the decision.

“It wouldn’t be appropriate for one of us to lead,” the Sister Wives star argued.

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Kody admitted he wanted to avoid the topic altogether

As for Kody, he admitted that his wives were right: He wasn’t ready to start building on Coyote Pass, and he wasn’t sure when he would be – if ever.

“I’m just a little discouraged,” he told Sister Wives producers. “They want to talk about it, and frankly, I don’t. I want to avoid it.”

Kody explained that he had a bad taste in his mouth about Coyote Pass. The last time they headed out to discuss the move, he remembered, he got into a squabble between Meri and Robyn because he promised both of them the same property.

“I got in trouble for being the one that manipulated everybody into their places, and I didn’t do that,” the Sister Wives patriarch insisted. “That made me look like an a**hole and an idiot. I don’t need to go out there and do all this.”

At this point, Kody confessed, he just wanted to “put them all off” and “enjoy his peace” for a while.

The ‘Sister Wives’ star admitted he sometimes thought about selling the land off

Janelle admitted that she was more than a little frustrated with Kody about his reticence to start building in Flagstaff.

“I just think subconsciously, he’s not interested anymore, and he’s just fine with us living separately, I guess,” she lamented.

Robyn agreed, adding that the distance between the wives was creating issues in their “family structure” as well as their relationships.

For Kody, the property seemed to be a reminder of a number of fights – with Robyn and Meri over the land division; with Christine over moving into one home; and, most recently, with Robyn, who hadn’t wanted to buy a home in Flagstaff.

“I just went through one of the worst fights I’ve ever had with a woman, and that’s getting into that house that Robyn just didn’t think we should be buying,” Kody told Sister Wives producers. “That process has been hard, and I’m stacking that on to the blowup out at Coyote Pass.”

The dad of 18 even revealed that he wasn’t sure he wanted to build on Coyote Pass at all. It had once been his dream, but now, he said sadly, “I’m so discouraged about where I feel like we’re at with the property that there’s days I wish I could just sell it.”