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The 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days tell-all introduced fans to a handful of friends of the cast, including two of Stephanie Matto’s close pals in Heather and Sanders. The friends took part in the tell-all alongside Stephanie, though one of them was a lot more outspoken than the other. Why was Stephanie’s friend Heather so angry during the season 4 tell-all of 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days?

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’90 Day Fiancé’ star Stephanie Matto | Manny Carabel/Getty Images

Stephanie and Erika butt heads during the ’90 Day Fiancé’ tell-all

Stephanie and Erika had a pretty turbulent romance in season 4 of 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days. After Stephanie flew out to Australia to meet Erika face-to-face, several issues immediately surfaced.

For starters, Stephanie admitted that she had some big trust issues that often prohibited her from being intimate with others. She went on to become very jealous over Erika’s relationship with her friends, and fans began to speculate that Stephanie was lying about her sexuality.

Once their relationship fell apart on 90 Day Fiancé, Stephanie returned to the United States. But all of their previous issues re-surfaced during the tell-all, including Stephanie’s insecurities — which she says stem from her work as a stripper — and the claims that she is really straight.

Stephanie was quick to shut down the rumors that she is not bisexual in part one of the tell-all, but having her friends get involved in the conversation only heated things up even more. And Stephanie’s best friend, Heather, was not afraid to come to her defense in front of the cameras.

This is why Heather was so defensive during the tell-all

One of the biggest obstacles Stephanie and Erika faced on 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days was jealousy over Erika’s friends. At one point this season, Stephanie left Erika in tears after confronting her about the close nature of some of her friendships.

Turns out, Stephanie has a few close-knit friends of her own. And during the tell-all, Heather got very angry when she came to Stephanie’s defense. Although fans may have suspected that Heather’s glass of wine had something to do with her behavior, she admitted that being rowdy is just in her nature.

“I’m Italian, it’s what I do,” she stated.

Heather’s quip aside, there is another reason why she was so angry during the tell-all. Stephanie and Heather are very close to each other and this is not the first time Heather has stuck up for the 90 Day Fiancé star.

Back in March, Heather took to her YouTube channel and fired back at all of the accusations that Stephanie was facing at the time. According to Screen Rant, Heather assured her listeners that she will always come to Stephanie’s defense, mainly because they are more like family than friends.

The familial relationship between Heather and Stephanie explains why she was so defensive at the tell-all. But that hasn’t stopped fans from speculating about what is really going on with Stephanie.

Which ’90 Day Fiancé’ star is the true narcissist?

Between the jealousy issues and the personal insecurities, fans were not surprised when Stephanie and Erika parted ways. Many viewers were shocked, however, when Stephanie called out Erika for being a narcissist during the tell-all.

The conversation took a turn for the worst when Erika reiterated that Stephanie was much different in person than what she seems on YouTube. That commented got Stephanie pretty angry and she lashed out by telling Erika that she is a narcissist.


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Following the 90 Day Fiancé tell-all, fans pointed out that Stephanie is the one who actually displayed more narcissistic tendencies throughout the season. This includes acting like she is entitled, disregarding Erika’s feelings, and being unable to handle any kind of criticism.

There is no telling what the next part of the tell-all will reveal, but it definitely looks like the drama between these two is far from over.

New episodes of 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days air Sunday nights on TLC.