Ali Wong Once Said Her Guy Friends Thought Bill Hader Had an ‘Undiagnosed Mental Illness’

Bill Hader looks to be having a tough few months. Last month, media outlets reported that the actor had a verbal run-in with Nick Reiner hours before he allegedly killed his parents; this month, reports suggest he and his longtime love have called it quits. Bill Hader and Ali Wong dated for a couple of years, up until January 2026, and everything seemed to be going well. Still, Wong once admitted their early courtship raised concerns for her male friends. She said they mistook Hader’s romantic gestures for an “undiagnosed mental illness.”

Ali Wong once said her friends wondered if Bill Hader had an undiagnosed mental illness

Bill Hader and Ali Wong have split after two years together, but, according to Wong, Hader was smitten with her from the jump. In fact, the Barry star harbored a crush on Wong so strong that he reached out after her divorce to ask her to be his girlfriend. While Wong initially declined the offer, Hader would not be deterred. The comedian told Vanity Fair that the actor had flowers delivered to every hotel she stayed at during her comedy tour.

Wong recalled the romantic gesture with nostalgia. She even said it made her female friends swoon. Her male friends didn’t think it was so lovely, though. Wong remembered her male friends saying that Hader must be a “psychopath” based on his tactics. Wong joked that other men have become “so lazy” that they assume another man doing something nice for a woman he is interested in must have an “undiagnosed mental illness.”

As it turns out, Hader was not a “psychopath” nor does he appear to have an “undiagnosed mental illness.” The relationship did not end because of cheating, a major falling out, or even an odd habit.

Why did the comedian and the actor call it quits?

While Ali Wong’s friends were not initially sure of Bill Hader, clearly things quieted down once the actor proved himself. Wong certainly liked him enough to continue seeing him. The couple spent two years together, though there had been murmurs of trouble a few months ago. Why exactly did they break up, though?

Busy schedules and additional obligations forced the couple to end the romantic relationship. According to an insider who spoke with People, Hader’s filming schedule and Wong’s comedy tour made it impossible for them to find time to see each other. They opted to end the romance and remain friends so they could focus on their jobs and their family commitments. Wong and Hader both had very busy 2025s, and that doesn’t look like it will slow down anytime soon. They also have children to factor in.

Hader is the father of three; he coparents with his ex-wife, Maggie Carey. Wong shares joint custody of her two daughters, Mari and Nikki, with her ex-husband, Justin Hakuta. Hader and Carey split up in 2017. Wong and Hakuta filed for divorce in 2022.