Jennifer Lopez Wants to Date a ‘Regular’ Joe After Ben Affleck Divorce, Says Insider
After Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck divorced, she is reportedly looking to date someone outside the entertainment industry. Lopez has had a number of high-profile relationships, and her divorces have all taken place in the public eye. As she looks to her future after spending some time alone, she reportedly wants to find a “regular Joe.”
Jennifer Lopez hopes to date a regular guy following her divorce
Lopez and Affleck finalized their divorce in early 2025. Since then, she has focused on spending time on her own. When she looks to a new relationship, though, she reportedly wants someone who “has nothing to do with Hollywood.” She has been involved with a number of men in the entertainment industry in the past.
“Believe it or not, Jennifer says she wants a ‘regular Joe,’ a businessman or a blue-collar guy who’s secure in himself,” an insider told InTouch Weekly. “A guy who is strong in his convictions, someone who will make her feel special, safe, and secure. She’s tired of being taken advantage of by men who want the spotlight.”
She is reportedly also looking for someone who will be “open to discuss his insecurities and hers.”
Jennifer Lopez once said she wasn’t looking to date anyone after her marriage ended
For a long time after her divorce, Lopez didn’t want to date anyone, even someone far outside the public eye. She wanted to spend time alone.
“You have to be good on your own,” she told Nikki Glaser for Interview Magazine. “I thought I learned that, but I didn’t. And then, this summer, I had to be like, ‘I need to go off and be on my own. I want to prove to myself that I can do that.’”
She said it was “lonely, unfamiliar, scary,” but she wanted to be able to feel fulfilled without a romantic partner.
“Being in a relationship doesn’t define me,” she said, adding, “I can’t be looking for happiness in other people. I have to have happiness within myself. I used to say I’m a happy person, but was still looking for something for somebody else to fill, and it’s just like, ‘No, I’m actually good.’”
She wants to find someone who loves her for her flaws
Lopez said that in her time alone, she focused on loving herself. She hopes to find someone who loves all of her.
“That, to me, is a scary thing too, or a confusing thing, because it’s like, ‘Oh, you couldn’t love me if I have flaws. I have to be perfect to be loved.’ That’s not true!” she said. “Somebody who truly loves you will help you heal those parts of yourself.”
She feels a good relationship will allow her to be herself and grow.
“That’s what I’ve learned about love, that it is a secure thing,” she said. “You make me feel safe, and when I fall short of the glory, you understand me and you help me to grow to be better, because you have your boundaries and I have my boundaries. And I go, ‘Here’s where you’re falling short for me and here’s where I’m falling short for you.’ And so, we get better at those things together.”
