Rachael Kirkconnell Makes Shocking Admission About Her Sex Life with Matt James
Rachael Kirkconnell and Matt James’ breakup absolutely floored Bachelor Nation. It’s not that fans of the dating competition franchise believed Kirkconnell and James were endgame or anything. It was rather the opposite, actually. The wording of the announcement was what was so surprising. The breakup announcement, posted by James without Kirkconnell’s knowledge, as we later learned, was so hyper-religious that fans initially wondered if his socials had been hacked. In the immediate aftermath, Kirkconnell shared what happened from her perspective; James has stayed mostly quiet since the announcement. Now, almost a year after the big breakup, Rachael Kirkconnell is spilling some more tea; she recently let fans in on a shocking detail of her sex life with Matt James.
Rachael Kirkconnell says she feels like a virgin after a sexless life for years
Rachael Kirkconnell has spent a few months staying quiet on social media and the podcast circuit. She broke that dry spell this week with an appearance on Extra Dirty to talk about a different kind of dry spell. The reality TV personality chatted a bit about her dating life before revealing that she’s reluctant to “give it up” now because she feels kind of like a virgin. She went on to claim that she hasn’t had sex in “years,” which is leading to her reluctance to hook up.
Rachael Kirkconnell’s admission about her sex life has Bachelor Nation fans feeling a bit confused. She claims that she hasn’t had sex in years, but she and Matt James broke up just nine months ago. Kirkconnell didn’t go into further detail, but now fans are questioning if the long-term duo never had a sexual relationship, or if their romance was suffering from a dead bedroom before they even got engaged. Matt James appears to be more openly religious than Kirkconnell, so it’s entirely possible that celibacy was in play until marriage for him, but not her.
Rachael Kirkconnell discussed serious issues in her relationship previously, but she kept information about her sex life quiet. Still, if you read between the lines, she was hinting at it. During her appearance on Call Her Daddy shortly after the split, she opened up a bit about feeling like James’ assistant instead of his lover. James has not commented on Kirkconnell’s admission.
The Bachelor Nation couple’s relationship timeline
Matt James and Rachael Kirkconnell’s relationship got off to a rocky start back in 2020, and it remained complicated for the duration of their courtship. The former duo met on the set of The Bachelor in September 2020. Fans watched their season play out beginning in January 2021. While James offered Kirkconnell the final rose, he did not propose. Later, Kirkconnell was accused of racism after photos emerged of her attending a sorority theme party in college. The theme was Antebellum. James and Kirkconnell split, as he tried to distance himself from her scandal.
In April 2021, they announced that they had gotten back together. Things seemed to be going fine, but the pace of their relationship gave some fans pause. While they traveled together, they never moved in together. They didn’t even live in the same city. An engagement was something fans were looking for, especially after four years, but it never happened. In January 2025, James announced their split while Kirkconnell was boarding a plane to return to the United States from Japan. She learned about the announcement moments before taking off. She had no internet access for the duration of the flight. Kirkconnell recalled being absolutely floored by the breakup and how James announced it.
