‘Counting On’: Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard Seemingly Take a Dig at Jana While Discussing Their Parenting Style
Former Counting On stars Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard have gained a new perspective since breaking away from her famously conservative family. Now that she’s a married mom of two, Jill is realizing that her parents — Jim Bob and Michelle — may not have the best approach to raising children.
Or at least an approach she doesn’t agree with. And, while discussing her approach, she seemingly took a dig at her big sister and her ‘level of independence.’
The former ‘Counting On’ star has been speaking out on YouTube
It’s been more than three years since Jill and her husband, Derick, left Counting On. At first, it appeared that TLC had fired Derick, with Jill leaving in solidarity. But Derick and Jill say they intentionally left the series because they were tired of Jim Bob’s controlling ways.
Since then, Jill and Derick have been feuding with her parents and there’s been little to no contact. The Dillards have separated themselves from the Duggar brand, and have started doing their own thing on social media.
Over the past year, Jill and Derick have been posting videos on their YouTube channel. They’ve answered a ton of questions from fans. Neither one has been afraid to give some insight into what goes on in the Duggar family when the TLC cameras aren’t rolling.
Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard want nothing to do with Jim Bob’s infamous parenting rules
Jim Bob is known for the extremely strict rules he imposes on his children. The most notorious have to do with courting, media consumption, and clothing. But Jill and Derick are setting their own standards for their boys Israel, 5, and Samuel, 3.
One of the things the Dillards do differently than the Duggars is allowing their boys to watch TV. However, they always “plan ahead.”
“We take the advice of our pediatrician and don’t go beyond, like, two hours a day,” Derick recently told Us Weekly.
“We try to limit any in some days to, like, zero screen time, especially if the weather is really nice,” Jill added.
The former ‘Counting On’ stars want to maintain ‘limits’ in their parenting
When it comes to temper tantrums, Jill and Derick prefer letting their boys cool down before dealing with the problem. When one of her boys gets to the level where they can’t function, Jill says she makes him go to his room until he’s “ready to make good choices” or until he’s “ready to come and sort things out.”
Derick says they work hard to maintain limits in their parenting, especially with things like showing PDA in front of their children. The 32-year-old says PDA can be healthy when it’s “hugging, kissing, holding hands.”
The couple also makes sure to resolve their arguments in front of their children when they are upset with each other. Jill says this will keep her sons from developing “an unrealistic expectation of marriage.” It’s important they know that in the end she and Derick “love each other and are on the same page.”
Jill Duggar hasn’t been to her parents’ house in years
With letting her kids watch TV and being honest with them about marriage, it’s clear Jill’s parenting style is extremely different from her parents. Jill and Derick’s recent YouTube videos have also made it clear that Jill is realizing just how difficult her upbringing really was.
In fact, Jill revealed that she hasn’t been to her parents house in years. One of the reasons is because the Duggar family compound is filled with “triggers.”
“There’s some restrictions [about us going there], but also we just feel that, in this season of life, we have to prioritize our mental and emotional health, and our threshold—as we like to call it—is just a little bit lower in this season of life for us, with a lot going on in our own lives,” Jill explained.
Did the former ‘Counting On’ star take a dig at her big sister?
Jill also revealed in her latest video that if she has a daughter, she won’t raise her to rely on a man. Derick agreed, saying it’s important that they raise all of their children to be as independent as possible.
“We don’t want, like, 30-year-old kids living in our basement and not being productive,” Derick said. Jill then added, “You don’t want to raise somebody to be reliant on anyone. It’s good to have a healthy level of independence.”
Some fans took those last comments as a dig against Jill’s big sister Jana Duggar. She still lives at home with her parents at the age of 31 because of a strict Duggar rule. All of Jim Bob’s daughters must live at home until they get married.