How Ashton Kutcher Tried To Get Demi Moore To Fall Out of Love With Him

Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher shared a rocky relationship that lasted from 2003-2011. Although their romance was practically perfect at first, everything changed when they made the decision to tie the knot. Their relationship faced new hurdles and challenges that neither of them was prepared for, and in the end, Kutcher tried hard to get Moore to fall out of love with him.

Actors Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher pose at the 13th Annual Costume Designers Guild Awards in 2011
Actors Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher pose at the 13th Annual Costume Designers Guild Awards in 2011 | Stefanie Keenan/Getty Images

Why did Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher’s relationship fail?

According to Moore’s memoir, Inside Out, she became “addicted” to Kutcher.
She admits that she became much too codependent with her former husband, to the point where he began to feel suffocated. Her clingy behavior with Kutcher caused him to pull away, which ultimately led to him neglecting their relationship.

It was the beginning of the end, as Kutcher kept pulling away more and more from the celebrity.

Demi Moore leaning in to kiss Ashton Kutcher
Demi Moore leaning in to kiss Ashton Kutcher | Stefanie Keenan/Getty Images

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“Ashton was less and less present,” she writes. “He was focusing on other things: his work, his growing involvement in the tech world, his fantasy football league. He couldn’t have been clearer that whatever he was doing was really important- and I don’t fault him for that. But I do wish I’d been able to value myself in the same way.”

“Instead, I went into contortions to try to fit the mold of the woman he wanted his wife to be,” she continues. “I put him first. He didn’t ask me to do that. It’s just what he did. I wanted this marriage to work, and I was willing to do whatever it took, to jump through any hoop.”

But tragically, as much as she tried to make the relationship work, Kutcher was already looking for a way out of their marriage. Not being mature enough to end things on his own, Kutcher went to great lengths to try and get Moore to fall out of love with him.

The best way he knew how to do this was to begin cheating on Moore with other women.

Infidelity destroyed their relationship

Ashton Kutcher (L) and Demi Moore attend the after party for the Cinema Society with DKNY Jeans & DeLeon Tequila screening of 'No Strings Attached' at the Soho Grand Hotel in 2011
Ashton Kutcher (L) and Demi Moore attend the after party for the Cinema Society with DKNY Jeans & DeLeon Tequila screening of ‘No Strings Attached’ at the Soho Grand Hotel in 2011 | Mike Coppola/WireImage

While they were married, Kutcher was unfaithful to his wife. He had an affair with two women, who were both in their early 20s. One woman was a 21-year-old that Kutcher met in a bowling alley. The other was a fan of his that he met at a bar. According to Moore’s memoir, Kutcher used the same pick-up lines on these girls that he had used previously with her. It made her feel sick to her stomach when she found out.

But sadly, Kutcher didn’t even seem guilty about his behavior. Instead, he tried to justify his actions in the worst possible way.

“Ashton did not compensate for his behavior by being extra solicitous and kind,” Moore writes. “In retrospect, I think all of this was his way of trying to get out of our marriage. He didn’t know how to do that in a loving way, or maybe he was too conflicted. I think part of him cherished what we had; part of him couldn’t wait to move on.”

Moore continues, adding, “Every one of his actions was saying ‘please don’t love me.’ But, unfortunately for both of us, I did.”

Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore divorced in 2011

Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore in 2011
Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore in 2011 | Gregg DeGuire/FilmMagic

In 2011, Moore released a statement about the end of her marriage with Kutcher.

She writes, “It is with great sadness and a heavy heart that I have decided to end my six-year marriage to Ashton. As a woman, a mother, and a wife, there are certain values and vows that I hold sacred, and it is in this spirit that I have chosen to move forward with my life.”