Jessa Duggar’s Husband’s Father Thought Ben Seewald’s Courtship With Jessa Would ‘Mature’ Him

We’ve been watching the Duggars since Jim Bob and Michelle’s oldest kids were just teens, and it’s hard to believe Jessa Duggar and Ben Seewald now have a family of their own. Jessa and Ben tied the knot back in 2015, and they have three beautiful kids together. We see plenty of photos of their family thanks to Jessa’s Instagram and YouTube channel that she keeps up with for their fans.

While Jessa’s family is typically in the spotlight, we can’t forget about Ben’s. Looking back at the couple’s courtship, it seems Ben’s father thought marriage to Jessa would make Ben more mature, too. Here’s what we know.

Jessa Duggar and Ben Seewald met through church

View this post on Instagram

Happy Resurrection Sunday! . w/ @ben_seewald

A post shared by Jessa Seewald (@jessaseewald) on

Courtships in the Duggar family are huge deals, and they come with plenty of rules. The Duggars aren’t allowed to kiss, hold hands, hug, or touch the person they’re courting in any way, and their dates are chaperoned by either Jim Bob and Michelle or a sibling to make sure all rules are followed. This was the case with Jessa and Ben, of course. And they can thank their church for bringing them together in the first place.

According to Jessa, she and Ben met when Ben was the “new guy” at their church. Ben tried to “break the ice” during their first encounter by making awkward conversation, and she wasn’t sure if she’d see him again after that. Luckily, some of Jessa’s brothers invited Ben over to hang out, and that gave Jessa and Ben more time to get to know each other.

“Over those next few months, we talked a lot during your visits. And the more we talked, the more I started to fall for you,” Jessa wrote on her family blog. “It was as if I couldn’t help myself.”

Ben felt the same as Jessa, of course — and they quickly started courting once they realized they both were falling for each other.

They had one of the longest Duggar courtships

The Duggar family visits  'Extra' at their New York studios
The Duggar family visits ‘Extra’ at their New York studios | D Dipasupil/Getty Images for Extra

The Duggars describe courtships as dating with a purpose. They don’t romantically engage with others unless they see a future — and they tend to rush through the dating process right to an engagement and a wedding. Many of the Duggars only court for a month or two before tying the knot. But Jessa and Ben decided to take things slow relative to the others.

The couple started courting in 2013, and their relationship lasted 10 months before Ben got down on one knee.

“The months, weeks and days leading up to the wedding seemed to pass so slowly,” Jessa reflected on her family blog. “We must’ve had fifteen different married couples tell us that they could remember being where we are and that ‘Time flies by!’ And they were right, in regards to after the wedding. But before the wedding, time doesn’t fly by. It crawls by at a snail’s pace.”

Ben’s father thought marriage would mature his son

View this post on Instagram

Happy birthday to my favorite person in the whole wide world! @ben_seewald! Wow, a quarter of a century old! There are so many things I love about you, and here are a few: You have a beautiful soul. You’re thoughtful and romantic. We’re in a busy season with babies, so I’m not going to pretend that it’s all roses and chocolates. Mostly it’s the hundred “little” things, like those very married kisses on your way out the door to work, and how the moment you return home, you’re changing poopy diapers, loading the dishwasher, and at least once a week asking me if we want to get the kids to bed early so we can pop popcorn and watch our favorite video podcasts together. I love your love for learning. You see education as a way of life, not something that stopped once you wrapped up your 4-year degree. You’re an enthusiastic about gaining knowledge, always reading and researching a broad array of subjects and sharing what you’re learning with me. I love this! You’ve gotten me hooked on Audible! I’ll admit, I do copy a lot of titles from your booklist, and I like absorbing the same things so we can discuss and give feedback to one another. It’s almost like we have our own little book club! You’ve given me an appreciation for diverse kinds of foods, always choosing new restaurants and unique menu items on date nights. You’re a fantastic cook, and you like choosing new dishes with unique ingredients. I can’t say you’ve ever made anything that I didn’t love. I usually roll with the produce gathered by whoever pulled my grocery pickup order, but you love strolling the racks and handpicking the freshest ingredients to use in your recipe. This care and attention to detail spans across into so many other areas of life as well! You think of fun ways to make memories together as a family. Getting takeout for dinner and eating it at a scenic location. Going for walks together and taking in the beauty of God’s creation. Donut dates with the boys, and then wrestling matches to work off all the sugar! Regular hugs, kisses and cuddles for all the kiddos. It’s no wonder “Da-day” is Ivy’s favorite word! You’re our world! We love you more than words can express! ❤️

A post shared by Jessa Seewald (@jessaseewald) on

RELATED: Jessa Duggar’s Followers Are Dragging Her For Talking About the ‘Married Kisses’ She Gets From Ben Seewald

Ben’s family isn’t too different from the Duggars. Jessa’s husband grew up as the oldest of seven, and his parents spoke to People back in 2014 about what he was like prior to meeting Jessa.

“When Michael and I had Ben, he was a great baby, but he was a real handful as a toddler,” Ben’s mother, Guinn, told the publication. “He was very adventurous. He was a very opinionated kid.”

As for Ben’s dad, Michael, he noted Ben was always “mature” for his age, but he knew a serious relationship with Jessa would push his maturity along even more.

“I was the same age as Ben when I was going through the same thing,” Michael added. “For me, it helped to mature me. A committed relationship does a lot to mature a young man. It does make them grow up a little bit. I can see that happening to Ben already.”

It seems Guinn and Micheal adore Jessa, too, as Guinn called her “strong” and “intelligent.”

We’re happy to see Ben and Jessa still going strong all these years later!

Check out Showbiz Cheat Sheet on Facebook!