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Jill Duggar opened up about her marriage to Derick Dillard in a new blog post, and she shared a few details that had some Counting On fans raising their eyebrows.

Jill latest blog post is titled “More Than Sex: How to Love Your Husband.” In it, the mom of two talks about “how to have a healthy marriage” and shares some ways women can love their husbands. And while she did talk about things like the importance of making time for uninterrupted conversation and being open about finances, she also shared her thoughts on the role sex plays in a marriage.

Jill believes in having sex often

Jill comes from a conservative family where dating — and even physical contact — before marriage is frowned upon. But once you put a ring on it, all bets are off, apparently. The 28-year-old suggests having sex “regularly” with your husband.

“3-4 times a week is a good start. lol,” she wrote, adding that you should “be open with your spouse about your desires and change things up to keep it exciting!” If health problems make having intercourse difficult, she advises finding “other ways to have fun and be intimate.” And if sex is a struggle, she suggests seeing a doctor or a licensed counselor.

“Let your spouse know that you’re always available,” Jill added. That echoes her mom Michelle’s advice that wives “be joyfully available” to their husbands, “no matter what.”

Jill’s advice: “Be confident about your body” and “Get new lingerie”

Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard
Jill Duggar Dillard and Derick Dillard in 2014 | D Dipasupil/Getty Images for Extra

Jill also had some advice for spicing things up in the bedroom. She encourages women to not neglect their appearance and discourages living in “frumpy pjs” and never wearing makeup. Showering in the evening and using “fragrant lotion” can also be another way to show you care about your husband and are “up for fun whenever he is,” according to Jill

For women who might not be totally happy with the way they look, Jill had this to say: “Be confident about your body. Chances are, he is less concerned about the things you’re worried about him not liking than you are. He will be happier when you are confident about yourself.”

Another Jill-approved tip? Throw out those dingy, ill-fitting bras. “Get new lingerie (online is an easy way to buy!) as a surprise gift for birthdays, holidays, vacations or whenever!” she wrote.

How Counting On fans reacted

Fans had a strong reaction to Jill’s post. Some responded positively. “Love your honesty and transparency,” wrote one. “Nice to see you actually use the word sex and not flit around it like it’s a dirty word,” another chimed in. Others were happy that she suggested seeking out counseling if you are having marriage troubles and that she advised people who were being abused to get out and report the crime to the police.

But others felt Jill’s advice was a bit backward. “Was this written in 1950?” commented on person on Instagram. “These ideas are so old fashioned,” another person agreed, wondering why women should feel pressure to dress up for their husbands or install a tracking app on his phone so she always knows where he is (two other pieces of advice from Jill).

Others took issue with the idea that a wife should never say no to sex with her husband. “It’s ok to not be ‘available’. It’s ok to say no to sex. Even in marriage,” one person reminded Jill.

Jill had a response when some commenters complained that she was too focused on pleasing her husband at the expense of what she might want. She assured everyone that her needs are being met as well.

“Never said I don’t love sex,” she wrote on Instagram. “Sex is created by God and meant to be enjoyed by both the husband and the wife!