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Those who follow the Duggars know all about Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar’s courtship rules. According to the strict Christian parents, their children should date with the purpose of marriage. And all of the Duggar kids who are now married followed the courtship rules quite closely.

Now, Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard are talking about what their courtship was really like. And Jill spilled that breaking the courtship rules is actually quite easy.

Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard talked about their courtship on a recent Q&A

Jill Duggar Dillard (L) and husband Derick Dillard visit 'Extra' at their New York studios
Jill Duggar Dillard (L) and husband Derick Dillard visit ‘Extra’ at their New York studios | D Dipasupil/Getty Images for Extra

Jill appears to be on the outs with her famous family, as she’s no longer a part of TLC’s Counting On and doesn’t seem to see her parents or siblings often. And she’s now answering all of her fan’s burning questions via YouTube. She and Derick sat down to talk about how their courtship really went, as it didn’t go down exactly as it was portrayed on 19 Kids and Counting.

I feel like there were maybe some misconceptions about our courtship,” Jill explained in her Q&A. “It was definitely a little bit more played up for the show and all that. So, things maybe weren’t as weird as they seemed.”

Those who watched the TLC series might recall how Jill first met Derick. Derick got in contact with Jim Bob to share the humanitarian work he was doing in Nepal, and that prompted Jim Bob to encourage Jill to meet the young man. Jim Bob eventually flew Jill to Nepal to meet Derick in person, and the rest is history.

Jill said it would’ve been easy to break the courtship rules

Jill and Derick followed all of the courtship rules that were expected of them. When they had video calls, they allowed others to be present to listen in. And they included Jim Bob and Michelle in their group text. But Jill mentioned in her Q&A that breaking the rules would’ve been quite easy.

“We didn’t want [the chaperones] to listen in on our conversations, it was more just to [be in] physical proximity they were supposed to keep tabs on,” Jill explained in her video. “But if you want to get away with something, really, if you wanted to do something, you could’ve. It was just more of, just for ourselves.”

Jill then explained that she and Derick actually wanted “another set of eyes” on their relationship so the third party could vouch that the couple was following all the rules.

Did any Duggars break courtship rules?

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It doesn’t sound like Jill and Derick broke any rules during their courtship. Instead, they seemed to embrace the expectations that were set for them. But such was not the case for the rest of the now-married Duggars.

In the book Growing Up Duggar, Jessa Duggar openly admitted to breaking the rules when courting Ben Seewald. While all phone calls were supposed to be chaperoned, Jessa noted she would have secret phone calls with Ben at night.

When Jinger Duggar was engaged to Jeremy Vuolo, she also caused a scene when she gave him a full-frontal hug. This type of hugging is typically reserved for married couples only.

It’s also important to remember that the dating chaperones were often younger Duggar kids. It would be easy to bribe them with treats for some alone time, and many fans have wondered if this ever happened.

Now that Justin Duggar is engaged to Claire Spivey, we’ll have to wait and see if they follow all the courtship rules that are expected of them!

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