‘Married at First Sight’: Miles Says His Head and His Heart Are in ‘Two Different Places’ About Karen on Decision Day
Karen Landry and Miles Williams rarely seemed to be on exactly the same page on Lifetime’s Married at First Sight season 11. Miles often felt rejected by Karen’s slow-paced approach to physical intimacy, while Karen wondered if Miles would be able to lead their household and exhibit the more traditional masculine energy she was used to.
On Decision Day, Miles and Karen ultimately decided to stay together. Still, both spouses expressed doubts and concerns about their potential future.
Miles admitted the lack of intimacy in his marriage had taken a toll on him
In advance of Decision Day, Miles told Lifetime producers that he had conflicting feelings, noting that his head and his heart were in “two different places.”
The Married at First Sight star had often bent over backwards to make his marriage to Karen work, but he hadn’t always felt the effort was worth it when she didn’t reciprocate. Still, he admitted that he couldn’t help hoping that the underlying potential could grow into something deeper with time.
“My head is saying, ‘You’ve been married for four months, and you haven’t gotten what you need. You should get a divorce,’” Miles confessed. “But my heart is saying, ‘Karen is what you wanted, and what she’s shown you the last three or four weeks is somebody that you could spend the rest of your life with for sure.’”
The 26-year-old told the Married at First Sight experts that, were he able to go back in time, he would have been “very surprised” to know he still wouldn’t have had sex with his wife after four months together. After a few weeks of marriage, Miles admitted he wondered if he would ever be able to get his needs met in this relationship.
That question, he revealed, was still yet to be answered fully.
“I don’t know if she will be able to meet my needs physically or emotionally,” Miles said of Karen. “I’m just not completely clear on that.”
Karen agreed that she hadn’t always been sure about the match
Like Miles, Karen spoke with concern about the couple’s lack of physical intimacy – not only sex, but also hand-holding, kissing, and hugging. The 30-year-old explained that she was often led toward greater physical intimacy by an emotional connection. At first, she didn’t feel that with her husband, which sometimes made her back away.
“If that connection is not there, then it’s hard for me to want to kiss you. It’s hard for me to want to hold your hand,” Karen revealed.
The Married at First Sight star agreed with her husband’s assessment of their slow pace when it came to deepening their level of connection.
“Are we necessarily where I want to be in a marriage either? No,” Karen said frankly.
Still, she felt that – especially over the past month – they had built more emotional trust and a deeper bond.
The ‘Married at First Sight’ couple agreed to stay together and work on their marriage
Ultimately, both Karen and Miles agreed to stay together, if only to see what could evolve between them in the future. Both of them admitted to significant misgivings, but they seemed to believe it was possible for their love to blossom.
“I could not have been matched with a more caring, patient person,” Miles said of Karen when it came time to announce his choice, “but I think that we have legitimate concerns and reasons why we could say no.”
But the Married at First Sight star followed up this confession by saying, “But I don’t want to. I want to say yes. And I want to say yes because of what we’ve seen in the last three to four weeks.” He added that he’d recently seen Karen getting more emotionally and physically intimate with him, as well as becoming more willing to trust and lean on him.
Karen, too, admitted to major doubts but said “yes” to continuing their relationship.
“One thing that I love about you and will always respect about you is your heart, how generous you are,” she told Miles. “I would like to stay married because that heart that you have is honestly what has allowed me to feel more comfortable with you. I feel like our marriage just started a few weeks ago, and I’m wanting to explore where that can go.”
While Miles and Karen agreed to continue working on their relationship, it seemed to be anything but a done deal that their marriage was permanent. Only time will tell if they can build a rock-solid relationship.