‘This Is Us’: What Chrissy Metz Would Tell Her Teenage Self Makes Us Cheer For Her Even More Than Usual
She was asked to pen her thoughts on what she would tell a younger version of herself, her teenage self. This is Chrissy Metz.
The words Chrissy Metz would speak to her teenage self
Named one of People’s Most Beautiful People of 2017, Metz was asked at the time what she would tell her younger, teenage self.
She began her note playfully saying, “Hey, Girl, Hey!”
“You are just as important and beautiful as Amy, the most gorgeous cheerleader in your entire school, even if your hair isn’t the perfect natural shade of honey blonde or because your clothes aren’t from Guess or that your curves look VERY different from hers.”
The actress went on in her note to explain the problem with comparing one’s self to others: comparisons will always be incomplete, and unfair.
“Contrary to the bill of goods you’ve been sold, life is not a competition. Stop comparing yourself to anyone or anything. We are all on our own journey and YOU are the driver.”
“There will be bumps in the road, detours to be taken and pit stops will have to be made, but you’ve got to fill ‘er up and keep going. You will lose your map, but never your intuition.”
Her painful relationship with her stepfather
The 39-year-old talked to NPR in 2018 about the hardcover publication of her memoir, titled This Is Me. The actress discussed her hurtful relationship with her stepfather, who she calls Trigger, and with whom she says she now gets along. In her memoir, she described a particularly humiliating experience Trigger would force her to regularly endure.
“When I was fourteen, Trigger began weighing me,” she wrote. “He’d get the scale from the bathroom and clang it hard on the kitchen floor. ‘Well, get on the damn thing!’ Trigger would yell. ‘This is what you need to know.’ ”
Once the number on the scale showed up, Metz writes that her stepfather’s reaction was rarely positive.
” ‘Good God almighty!’ he yelled every single time. The number then was about 140 or 130. Most of my friends weighed about ninety pounds. ‘Why are you getting fatter?’ he demanded.”
She told NPR,”It was really difficult to write about my stepfather, and I hummed and I hawed about it. And I was like, “Is this important? . . .” And the whole intention was that that chapter was about forgiveness, and it doesn’t matter. I mean, yes, people can do some really terrible, hateful, seemingly unforgivable things, but I think that forgiveness is so important and if not for the other person, but for yourself. . .”
Metz was an agent before becoming an actress
In her struggle to get acting work, Metz became an agent’s assistant, and eventually an agent. At the time, she considered it a waste of time but now is grateful for the skills she learned and continues to use in understanding contracts and the general entertainment business.
“It’s seemingly self-serving,” she told NPR, “but what I came to understand, through nine years of being a junior agent and then an agent, was that I learned so much about the business. It feels so empowering when I’m in a meeting where I look at a contract and I know how to read the verbiage, and I’m like, “Oh no, no. Not this.”