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It seems as though Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt have totally different views when it comes to marriage. While Aniston and Pitt were unquestionably in love during their marriage, opposing values and beliefs ultimately left their relationship severed. Find out why their views on marriage are so different and how it eventually led to their breakup. 

Jennifer Aniston & Brad Pitt
Jennifer Aniston & Brad Pitt | Frank Trapper/Corbis via Getty Images

Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston were together for seven years

It’s been well over a decade since Pitt and Aniston called quits on their relationship, yet everyone is still fixated on their romance. The media painted the two out to be the perfect “golden” couple, who got torn apart because of Angelina Jolie, the knife-collecting vixen. Yet in real life, according to Aniston, the tabloids painted the “love triangle” between Pitt/Aniston/Jolie to be a lot more dramatic and soap opera-esque than it actually was. 

The truth of the matter is, in Aniston’s words, “things changed.” She tells Vanity Fair that they ultimately stopped growing together, which led to the downfall in their relationship. The Friends actress reveals, 

“Relationships are complicated, whether they’re friendships or business relationships or parent relationships. I don’t think anybody in a marriage gets to a point where they feel like ‘We’ve got it!’ You’re two people continually evolving, and there will be times when those changes clash. There are all these levels of growth—and when you stop growing together, that’s when the problems happen.”   

Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston have totally different views on marriage

Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt
Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt at the Morton’s Restaurant in Los Angeles, CA | Rob Beccaris/WireImage

Unfortunately, love is not enough to sustain a marriage. If two people don’t have the same values when it comes to “happily ever after,” there’s a good chance that things are going to get messy. In Aniston’s eyes, challenges in a marriage are a chance for the relationship to grow and evolve. It is the chance to strengthen the bond and improve it. In Pitt’s view of things, he doesn’t even know if “happily ever after” exists. 

Jennifer Aniston’s view on marriage 

Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt
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Aniston tells Vanity Fair,

“It’s like the ebb and flow of every relationship. It’s hard; it gets easy; it gets fun again. What’s hard to sustain is some ideal that it’s perfect. That’s ridiculous. What’s fantastic about marriage is getting through those ebbs and flows with the same person, and looking across the room and saying, ‘I’m still here. And I still love you.’ You re-meet, reconnect. You have marriages within marriages within marriages. That’s what I love about marriage. That’s what I want in a marriage. It’s unfortunate, but we live in a very disposable society. Those moments where it looks like ‘Uh-oh, this isn’t working!’—those are the most important, transformative moments. Most couples draw up divorce papers when they’re missing out on an amazing moment of deepening and enlightenment and connection.”

She sighs heavily and turns away to light a Merit cigarette. “That’s not Brad’s view of it,” she says, glum again. “We believe in different things, I guess.”

Brad Pitt’s view on marriage 

And as for Pitt, he seems to be under a different impression. He reveals in a separate interview,

“I’ll tell you what I despise: this two-becomes-one thing where you lose your individuality. We don’t cage each other with this pressure of happily ever after. You figure it out as you go along. We feel it out, rather than setting policies and rules. I’m not sure it really is in our nature to be with someone for the rest of our lives, just because you made this pact. You keep going as long as you keep growing. When that dies, we do. We still have that friendship; we still have a good laugh, which can go in and out depending on the dynamics and outside influences. It’s complicated, but that’s what keeps it interesting.”